u/Otherwise_Rise1287

my friends and i were drunk and one of my guy friends suddenly started touching my body discreetly without consent. i was letting him do it, but then he inserted his fingers inside my private part while we were under the blanket despite our friends being in the same room. i was also touching his, but with his pants on. i was enjoying it for a moment but then i suddenly felt uncomfortable because it was going too far. i remember avoiding him the whole night but he was still trying to get close. was this sexual harassment? does this mean, in some way i harassed him to even though he started it?

for context, pumunta kami ng bf ko sa isang shop para bumili ng food and pag pasok namin isang group lang ng mga babae andon and may little girl din silang kasama (5-6yo ata). medyo natagalan kami pumili so nakatayo lang kami sa counter and yung table ng mga babae is talagang nasa likod lang namin. yung little girl bigla nya nagstart ng convo and was calling me ‘ate’ which i found cute naman. tas after, nilapitan nya rin bf ko and called him kuya. suddenly nagsalita yung isang babae and said “no, that’s not kuya, ayan totoo mong tatay”. at first funny sya kasi ganon naman talaga biruan ng matatanda. the weird thing lang was she kept going. kahit yung friends nya naiilang na rin. sabi nung friend nya, “ay beh payag ka non? (to the kid)” di sumagot yung bata pero yung mother sumagot. lumingon sya sa bf ko and said “payag ako, why not? pwedeng pwede naman” tas don medyo tumatawa pa ako kasi harmless naman???? then sabi pa nung isang friend “uy wag kasi mahal nya tatay nya”. tas dito na ako talaga na off kasi sabi nya “pwede namang dalawa sila ah. okay na okay sakin” sabay tawa. mind you she looks like she’s in her mid 30s tas kami 20s palang hahshdhdhdhd ang dami nya pang remarks habang andon kami. ang weird na you’d talk about a stranger tas parang pinapapak mo. idkkk if OA lang ba talaga ako or what. i just dont think na a person with a child and a partner should act like that.