u/Otherwise_Taste1484

When I was growing up in the 90s, it was a normal cultural thing (white middle class, semi religious town), for people to wait until the 3rd date to have sex. I can't imagine implementing that now, since so many people expect sex right away, even forgoing the actual date and asking for straight up sex.

Is this something people still implement?

I know steve harvey recommends a 90 day waiting period to get to know eachother before having sex. I think I would literally not get any dates at all if I told men I want to wait 90 days before sleeping with them.

Photos where you stare blankly into the camera without a facial expression are creepy. They look like mugshot photos. Maybe try smiling, taking headshots and full body shots, pics doing an activity.

Pics that are just your face staring blankly at me are off putting.

Please show human emotion or express warmth.

Blankly staring with no smile or warmth or expression makes you look like ted bundy's mug shot.

I am thinking of applying to some local government jobs, even emergency dispatch/probation officer, then remembered I was overemployed for a few years, and I will inevitably have to post my employment history. Am I screwed out of government jobs forever now? Is there a point where it won't matter as much?

Sometimes, you are not the standard of beauty. It's ok. Maybe people filter you out based on race, height, income, etc. That's fine. They have the right to do that. It sucks. But people need to learn how to not have resentment about it. If you match with a person, please do not complain about how no one wants you, or women/men only want xyz...if someone matched with you, then maybe they want you. But if you trauma dump and insist no one finds you attractive because you are less than 6 ft, aren't a supermodel, aren't promiscuous, aren't a certain race, etc. then people will leave the conversation since you are making it awkward.

I've matched with people who insisted women only want 6 foot, 6 figures, millionaires. I never indicated I wanted money. Do you even view me as a woman, or just a complaint department?

People need serious therapy and self help before entering these apps. Hurt people hurt people.