u/Owl_Buddy_2491

Hello! Looking for life advice here. I [18M] am preparing to head off to college soon, and just spent my summer working at a children's summer camp. We had a very specific and consistent daily schedule, and, more importantly, not following the schedule wasn't really an option, seeing as I was in charge of a group of campers. Comparing my days this summer to the days after high school ended, I've realized how incredibly helpful it is for me to have a routine like that. With full control over my days, I'm incredibly unhygienic and mostly just waste away on my couch playing games on my laptop.

The issue is, I know that just having a schedule for every minute of every day won't work off at college. I would not be able to stick to it on my bad days because I'd be the only one responsible for sticking to it; the schedule was only so effective this summer because of the external running of the system. But off at college, I'm the only one relying on me to stick to that schedule.

Any tips for how I can remedy this? I know this is probably a pretty basic coping thing most people have dealt with already, but this has never really been a big problem for me before now.

In case it helps, I have combined presentation and take Adderall.

Before next summer, I [18M] am looking to get a lifeguard certification to help with job stuff. However, because of my asthma and general aversion to any athletic activity, I am quite far from the peak of fitness. Any time I submerge my chest underwater, it immediately gets much harder to breathe, and I know my swimming form is truly terrible, all of this to the point where I highly doubt my ability to pass the physical tests. So, I have to get in enough shape to pass.

However, I don't like to present as particularly masculine. I keep my hair long and I shave my legs. I have very little mass to my body (in the 140s lbs) and like it that way. My biggest concern with working out it losing the pretty skinny, lanky build I have right now; I'm pretty happy with the stick figure aesthetic I have going on, and really prefer myself this way than with, like, a visible six-pack or something.

So, does anyone have advice on how to become fit and a decent swimmer without really looking any more fit? Or at least without getting muscles? I know "get fit without getting muscles" sounds pretty dumb, but I hope y'all know what I mean and have tips.