r/irlADHD

30 years old...Feeling like a failure. I guess just wanting to share my feelings :).

I have a good job, a cute apartment, I am social and just starting to get out of my shell in terms of asking people out on dates. I've been very shy and scared of this my whole life. It sounds so silly saying this and I am tearing up writing this, because others don't seem to have this problem, and I've wasted 30 years being lonely (with a few partners along the way that have not worked out). <3

Anyways, I've always struggled with cooking. I feel like that is the one area where my ADHD really "shines." (Well, cooking and always being late.... xD).

Anyways....I guess I just feel a bit failure-like....everyone around me talks about making these big fancy meals. And I have cooked potatoes literally one time in my life.

I am not bad at pasta, have cooked chicken breasts before, have even tried making lasagna once a few years ago. I typically make "fancy salads" every day...But I just still feel so inadequate in the kitchen.

My company is currently getting people to start going back to the office (I currently work from home)...I can't even begin to think about cooking shit and packing a lunch. That feels so impossible.

And in terms of dating...I feel like this is always a red flag that is talked about in the media...i.e. girls like guys who know how to cook.

There was one friend who I fell in love with, who had adhd, and it was so nice to see the traits in her, it made me not feel as alone. <3

But she is gone and I guess just feeling like I am behind or not a real adult in this way....despite being almost "middle aged" now.

I realize I am being very hard on myself...I see that...but it's still how I feel.

Thanks for the empathy peeps. Love you all <333

Hey I am unmedicated and looking for help not having to wait every night to pass out.

Hey everyone, i just wanted to talk about ADHD and I also wanted to know actual symptoms of having ADHD and also your behaviour around people when you are suffering from this.

Recently I got to know about this thing online and I started to get doubt thinking that do I really have this coz I feel some symptoms are relatable and I want to control them but I am unable.

I act little absent minded among people and certain situations, if I plan to meet a new person or to visit a place I get little anxious, I will be using phone for something imp but I ll leave that and I ll switch to something else, can’t sit calmly and composed, due to over excitement after seeing my favourite things I mess up things, I will always be In a hurry to complete certain tasks and act dumb, overthink a lot etc and many more.

Are all these symptoms of ADHD ? Or most of you face the same thing but will control by yoga meditation etc ? But when I am with the girl I like I act very calm very matured way, will listen to her tc if her and Many more but this scenario is completely different with other people.

Guys you guys can help me i feel…

So that I will understand what’s exactly normal and my misunderstanding.

I started using cannabis, and I noticed it gives me just enough dopamine so that I can actually get started. Does anyone else do this? Or does it really just make us dumb and the work we think is so good is actually trash?

You ever get annoyed with yourself because you’re hyperfixating REALLY badly??

It hasn’t been this bad since I was a kid. I forgot how old I was, I think 6 or 7. I was hyperfixating on something and by the end of the day, realized I didn’t eat. So from then on I said OK, I’m gonna make sure I eat at least every once in a while.

For some reason I’m just not eating these past couple days?? Idk what’s happening?? I don’t want to stop anything. I barely wanna speak with friends. I’m surprised I’m even making this post.

I just wanna HYPERFIXATE.

I am undiagnosed btw. I just resonate with damn near every inattentive ADHD symptom.

OK. Rant over. But holy sh*t.