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I’ve just been prescribed Femoston by a Dr Online but it was such a confusing conversation. I’m not sure if she got the whole context and we were not really understanding each other (language barrier).

Is it ok for me to start taking this? I’m 41, peri-menopause symptoms +PMMD and neurodivergent . I’ve been struggling a lot recently with my moods , brain fog, sweats etc… is this the way to go or should I seek more info? I’m really worried about it , I’m so tempted cos I feel I need a solution but I don’t want another thing shaking it up !

I am on SSRI in Luteal 20mg and Bupropion 150 daily

Thank you.

I just finished Euphoria by Lily King and loved it. I also enjoyed Heart the lover. In general I usually love books by Deborah Levy, Nicola Kraus, Joan Didion, anything that’s quite raw and real and about women’s experiences really. Anything that’s about equality. Anything about nature, I loved H is for Hawk and more recently Clear and Migrations. What can you suggest given that? I have a foggy perimenopause brain so not so clear!

I am 41 perimenopausal, PMDD and neurodivergent. Obvs I am going through it! I was prescribed Escitalipram SSRI (Lexapro) and Bupropion but I’m just so ragey and having Luteal hell and no longer even a good week, it just rolls on through. I’m so anxious. I want to go for HRT but I don’t know how to start the convo as the Dr laughed me out of their office saying I was too young. Another doctor said possibly but only Progesterone and I’d need to get a lot of bloods done. I recently got a Wellwoman test and things are mostly very healthy and good, apart from very low Copper. I’m in Portugal but relocating to UK. I feel a bit desperate as my relationship is suffering badly and it’s a stressful time , any support welcome

TLDR- PMDD symptoms worse in last year, is it my relationship?

I’m really struggling at the moment, I have an upcoming move to a different country, relationship anxiety and adjusting to meds. Advice is appreciated please! I’m struggling knowing if what I’m experiencing right now wouldn’t be so drastic if I was with a supportive partner. He’s wonderful and kind and gentle and I really respect and adore how he is in the world. We were pretty good for the last year , been together 2ish, but in the last two months we have been in the pits! We can’t seem to get out and the Luteal weeks that have blow ups just role into the next now and I don’t feel like I’m getting a good week. We are stuck in a cycle where I will be irritable and it will trigger a defence in him and then we are in a discussion and this goes on over and over. We were having therapy but it was slow burn and we feel we need actual tools. I sometimes wonder if the dynamic is really bringing out all of my traumatic past. When we spiral I get so out of control that I’m crying and get panicking and he feels like he has to comfort me but doesn’t want to. He shuts down for days. My anxiety spikes and so it continues. I don’t want to leave the relationship, I feel like it’s us against a pattern but for him I feel he can’t separate it and I’m the enemy. I’m waiting for therapy to start back up but we have a big move coming up and he has completely retreated. I’m on Lexapro and bupropion but the bupropion seems to be making me more ragey. My partner is very adverse to any raised voice or criticism so he is not really able to understand the PMDD part as his nervous system goes into shut down and he cannot reassure or support. It’s so hard I don’t know what to do