r/perimenopause_under45

Anyone else? And why?

I actually feel like myself mentally and energy wise the last 5 ish days before my period. I need to be able to replicate this with hrt. Even just extend that feeling by a couple of weeks.

I am 46 yrs old. The last two months I have ended up in the ER exactly 14 days after the first day of my period. My resting heart rate went really high (150-160) and blood pressure went high too 150-170’s). They said I had a low grade fever. CT scan, EKG, Chest X-rays, all normal. D Dimer came back slightly elevated. They found nothing other than I was dehydrated. IV fluids made me feel better after about 30-60 mins.
I can’t keep visiting the ER every cycle, so I am not sure what to do. I am convinced it is Hormonal. After reading up, I suspect it is my estrogen depleting causing my night sweats which may be dehydrating me. I have no idea but I’m going to talk to a certified Menopause Practitioner. The sudden tachycardia is terrifying!

I can’t be alone in this. Any suggestions, solutions or stories welcome.

the last couple of years I've noticed I'm a lot less heat tolerant and overheat really easily when in the sun. I used to love the heat now I can find it unbearable at times. This isn't like hot flushes that come out of no where, but specifically when you are already in a hot environment. It feels like I'm easy hotter than I should be for the actual temperature it is and no one else around me seems to be struggling when I ask them. Does this sound like peri? or is it likely something else? I am only just reading up on it but I feel I have a lot of the symptoms.

What are we wearing in these heat waves? I’ve literally been in a 3 day panic attack because the heat has been so bad. Yay for heat induced panic attacks 🎉

I’ve considered just remaining in my house naked. But eventually I need to go outside. Give me all the recommendations!

Hey everyone,

I’m 43, and don’t have too many intense symptoms - I did develop severe anxiety a few years ago, but that has been managed. Right now the main symptoms I’m dealing with are 5 to 10 pounds of weight gain and nothing else in my life has changed (and I’m even exercising more than I ever have), and zero libido. Sometimes I have a twinge of brain fog, but it’s not bad at all.

I have been mulling over the idea of starting HT, but I have very dense breasts, and my doctor said that that puts me a little more at risk - and I’ve also heard that progesterone might cause cysts? Has anyone in my situation started HT and found it helpful?

Im on HRT estradiol patch and cycling progesterone, my period is still very regular but is now taking over my life. Two weeks to 11 days prior I get bloating and cramping I feel awful the whole time and then when my period does finally comes its completely unmanageable. It's so heavy day 1 and 2 its hard to leave the house, ive had tranzemic acid prescribed and this does work but im desperate to get rid of the whole entire palace of it - what has everyone else done when they got to this point? I only feel good for a few days a month and dread the next cycle.

Hi all,

I’m about to turn 46 and experiencing a range of weird symptoms. I’ve done lots of research and the answer is usually ‘could be perimenopause’. So just wondering if anyone else gets the following:

Dry mouth and sore gums (like gingivitis but no gum disease)
Reduction in general resilience
Occasional flashes of rage
Pelvic pain just like I did when I was pregnant.

The pain in my pubic bone is the worst - I can’t walk or remain active. I’m doing physiotherapy to improve my pelvic floor/ core/ hips but it flared up out of nowhere. Not being able to exercise is getting me down. And I literally just woke up with it one day.

Just wondering if anyone has experienced similar and whether HRT helped with particularly the pelvic pain?

I am 36, from last 1 year I am facing a very different situation, like earlier i use to face severe abdominal pain during periods. Now from last 1 year, i have noticed, severe pain in abdominal, thighs, and legs n very very week, n swollen face and hands before starting of my period. Like 1-2 day before . So my gynaecologist suggested M2 Tone Syrup with vitamin e capsules. But since after failure of my ivf, my body reacted to everything, seems like my body has stored too much heat, so it doesn't accept anything more that produces more great. So after consuming this syrup my stomach got upset. So I want advice, whether should I continue it or not? Did anyone out there used it, and it helped?

Im just in the dumps tonight, I’m not really looking for anything other than to get it off my chest. I feel like womanhood completely failed me or I at it. At 23 years old I had a etopic pregnancy that lead to a removal of one of my ovaries, tube, and 25% of my uterus.I was told then that I would never have anymore children which was fine I was just happy I was alive and survived. I have been on hormonal birth control ever since to regulate my hormones. I started showing signs of perimenopause when I turned 35 I am now 37 halfway through this and I’m just ready for it to be over with it’s been an exhausting 12 years and I just feel like my body, and my womanhood betrayed me. Hope all yall are having a good night and pushing through this I just needed somewhere to vent alittle

I'm meant to be taking progesterone on says 15-30 of my cycle however my cycle has been switching from 30 to 20 days at random. How am I meant to take the progesterone if my cycle is all over the show?

42 here, in peri for I’m assuming last two years and use of estrogen patch since January has helped SIGNIFICANTLY with brain fog, agitation; and mood. My libido has been shifting downward but I’ve still been excited and interested. BUT For the last few months, I haven’t been able to orgasm. Things feel good, dryness isn’t an issue, it builds and builds and then…. Nothing . It’s like when I was on Lexapro. OR I’m just crying without the explosion and my body is like “oh we’re done now” Has anyone experienced this??? Did estrogen cream or anything else help??

Hello all!! 44F here... I believe I have been in peri for awhile. I have all the signs.. sleep issues, weight gain, brain fog, hair loss with intense scalp itching, depression... Overall I feel like a stranger in my own body!! My PCP is a joke and refuses to order a hormone panel because I still get a period 🙄 She won't even give me a referral to a hormone specialist after she says she will! Doctors and healthcare where I live overall is awful!! I know there are online places like Midi for example where I can get care online. My question is... Will they order a hormone panel? I really would like to see where I'm at.. after that will they prescribe HRT if I am able to go that route? What online provider would you recommend ? Lastly pleeeeeeeease tell me my hair will stop shedding and grow back!! I always had beautiful hair.. now it looks like shit 😔 Just a gal that wants to feel herself again!! Thanks!!

**I’m writing this because reading through your posts over the last few days has honestly brought me so much peace. For a long time, I felt entirely isolated, but seeing your stories made me realize I’m not alone in what I've been going through.**
**A bit of my background: In 2024, I was diagnosed with a prolactinoma, and my hormones were completely out of whack. Fast forward to now—I just turned 36 a couple of days ago, and my doctor now strongly suspects Primary Ovarian Insufficiency (POI) based on my latest labs showing low AMH and high FSH.**
**Looking back, these symptoms really started hitting me when I was 33. Like so many of you, my concerns were completely dismissed by doctors who blamed it all on "just anxiety" because of my age. It is so incredibly frustrating to know something is off with your body but have it brushed aside.**
**Now that I finally have a doctor who is looking at the actual data, I’m trying to prepare myself for what’s next.**
**Is anyone else here dealing with POI specifically? For those of you who started Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT), what has your experience been like? Did it help clear up the brain fog, fatigue, or other symptoms?**
**Thank you all for creating such a supportive space. It means more than you know just to read your stories.**

I just started going through perimenopause around the age of 38 and now im 41. I have times where im hungry but everything i try to eat tastes nasty or get nauseous 🤢. I dont understand it and im always at the hospital for pains on the side of my right head. Doctor's do the normal blood work and scans nothing shows up wrong. I wake up with bad headaches where its easier to just lay in bed and not move. I can taste sweets like peppermint but nothing that is good for me. Weird.

I’ll start by saying two things, one I’m new here, if this isn’t allowed someone yell at me hahaha! And two I’m epileptic which generally comes alongside other neurological disorders. So recently I’ve started being screened for multiple sclerosis because I have a lot of the classic signs (numbness in limbs on one side, foot drop, vision degeneration in one eye, vertigo, blood pressure issues, muscle twitches that last for hours, losing my sense of smell, etc) and have started doing all of the testing to rule other conditions out. I’m pretty sure I’m at the last stages of tests and all I have left is an updated brain MRI and a spinal tap. But anyway tonight I was doing some research and I’m starting to wonder if my symptoms are actually just from perimenopause…I haven’t had my hormone levels tested yet (appointment at the end of the month) but my doctor wrote perimenopause in my chart when I told her about my cycles doubling in length with less time in between. Apparently that was enough to hear even though I’m only 35. I should also add that I have endometriosis and had my tubes removed as well as some lesions and a big ovarian cyst excised two years ago. Would greatly appreciate any thoughts or opinions or experiences. I hope I don’t sound foolish, I’m just really desperate to feel better and have answers.

Spotted for 15 days straight, 3 days of super heavy bleeding, 4 days of light bleeding, had 7 days break and then started spotting again.

Can't eat, nauseated, can't sleep. I randomly wanted to cry for three hours. Because I felt incredibly angry for 2 hours before that.

My doctors appointment is still couple weeks away.

I see no point of this. None at all.

It’s nice outside and I want to put on a skirt and walk around downtown like I used to. But I feel too ugly. My face is puffy and my body looks like a sack of potatoes. I used to enjoy getting dressed and taking walks. Now I don’t want anybody to see me.

I've been on the Climara Pro patch for about 2 months, it's been going great but 5 days ago I seemed to get a period 10 days after my period. It's very heavy with lots of clotting; I am a heavy bleeder but this is more than usual. Irregular periods have not happened to me yet, wondering if anyone else experienced this in peri or on HRT or if I should go to the hospital.

Hey girls... So I've had a REALLY rough time recently. Over the last year my periods have become ridiculous. They do whatever they want. I will be on periods for 30 days and stop for a week and then start again but its really light either brownish or pink with clear discharge? My emotions are ALL OVER. I'm crying almost daily, I don't want to leave my house, I feel like my husband doesn't want to be with me. I convince myself he hates me. I have absolutely NO desire whatsoever to have sex and I know its me and definitely not him. I love him so much and don't want anyone else but I feel like is pushing him away. I'm 41 and haven't been to my GYN in almost 2 years out of fear I guess. I'm scared of the unknown and scared of the answers or lack thereof I will receive. I have a strong family history of breast cancer and I'm not sure if that takes receiving hormones off the table for me? Does this sound like I'm in perimenopause or ?