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I’m trying to understand what the proper process is in the Philippines for my daughter’s situation.

My daughter is 14. When she was born, I was married to my ex-husband, so he is listed as her father on her birth certificate. He is not her biological father, and he actually knew this at the time.

We had our marriage annulled in 2020. In the court decision, it actually states that my ex-husband knew during my pregnancy that the child was another man’s, and the decision refers to the other man as her “biological father.” However, the dispositive portion still says that my daughter will remain the legitimate child of me and my ex-husband.

The decision is already final.

I am now married to my daughter’s biological father, and he is willing to acknowledge her. My daughter also wants to use his surname.

I came across Cua Ko v. Republic, G.R. No. 210984
where the Supreme Court discussed the distinction between legitimacy and biological filiation.

I’m trying to understand how this works in a situation like mine:

-Can my daughter still establish her biological filiation even though my ex-husband is legally listed as her father?

-Would this require a separate court case, or is there any process through the Local Civil Registrar/PSA?

-Since she is already 14, does she have a say in establishing her own biological filiation?

-If her biological father is eventually established, would that also allow her to use his surname?

One concern is that my daughter has ADHD and is uncomfortable talking to people she doesn’t know. If her participation is required, are there accommodations for minors in this kind of proceeding?

I’m mainly trying to understand the legal process and whether this is something that can actually be done.

A reminder to everyone: I keep seeing accounts that looks like they’re here lang para manggulo ng discussion. Kapag obvious na puro insulto, bad faith arguments, at pangba-bait ng away ang dala, better to block and report them. They may have an agenda to make this group look toxic, so let’s not give them the attention they’re looking for.

Many of us left because we were tired of intimidation, pressure to conform, and the inability to question things openly. Let’s not allow those same tactics to take over this space. If someone wants a genuine discussion, engage. If they’re only here to insult, harass, or derail conversations, block, report, and move on.

Napansin ko lang sa narrative ng INC, parang automatic na “panguusig” agad kapag may pumupuna sa kanila.

Naalala ko lagi yung turo na kapag inuusig daw ang Iglesia, dapat pa ngang matuwa kasi sinusubok ang pananampalataya at mas pagpapalain pa.

Pero paano kung hindi naman talaga panguusig? Paano kung valid criticism lang?

Example, gagawa ng malaking event na nagdudulot ng sobrang traffic at abala sa libo-libong tao. Kapag may nagreklamo, inuusig na agad?

O kaya boboto ng mga kandidatong halata namang hindi qualified o maraming issue, tapos kapag pinuna ng publiko, persecution na naman?

cycle na paulit-ulit:
- Gagawa ng desisyong may malaking epekto o abala sa ibang tao

- Makakatanggap ng reklamo o criticism.

-Ire-reframe yung criticism bilang panguusig

- gagamitin yung persecution narrative para mas lalong magkaisa ang members kasi victim daw sila at kawawa nanaman kasi inuusig and they wud cry AMMMAAAAAAA

Ang ending, wala nang kailangang i-address na criticism kasi lahat ng puna nagiging patunay lang na “tama” sila at “inuusig” sila.

Hindi nila napapansin na minsan kaya sila pinupuna ay dahil may totoong epekto sa ibang tao yung mga desisyon nila.

Hindi lahat ng criticism ay panguusig. Minsan consequences lang talaga ng mga choices ninyo.

Walang aatake sa inyo kung wala kayong inaabalang tao.

Pero malamang pati ito, matatawag na namang panguusig.

Translation:

One thing I’ve noticed about INC’s narrative is that any criticism automatically gets labeled as “persecution.”

They’ll say that when people oppose them, it’s a test of faith, and members should actually be happy because it means they’re being blessed even more.

But what if people are criticizing you because of your actions?

For example, when a massive event causes hours of traffic and inconvenience for thousands of motorists, and people complain about it, that’s not persecution.

That’s people being annoyed by the consequences of your decisions.

Or when the organization throws its support behind obviously questionable candidates and the public pushes back, that’s not persecution either. That’s accountability.

The pattern seems pretty foolproof:

-Do something that negatively affects other people.
-Receive criticism.
-Reframe the criticism as persecution.
-Use the persecution narrative to reinforce group loyalty.

At that point, no criticism ever has to be examined on its merits because every complaint becomes evidence that the group is somehow under attack.

The irony is that not everyone who disagrees with you is persecuting you. Sometimes people are just reacting to the impact of your choices.

But I guess this post will probably be called persecution too.

habang mas tumatagal at mas nakikita ko yung kalagayan ng gobyerno at Senado, mas lalong naninikip dibdib ko sa galit sayo.

Paano mo nasisikmurang sabihin na concerned ka sa kapakanan ng miyembro kung actively kang tumutulong maglagay ng mga lider na lalong nagpapabigat ng buhay nila?

P.i mo, tigilan mo na yang pagpapanggap na concerned ka sa mga miyembro mo habang paulit-ulit kang sumusuporta sa mga politikong halatang incompetent, corrupt, o walang silbi sa public service. Hindi “guided voting” yan kung ang ending paulit-ulit na lang naghihirap yung mga taong sinasabi mong pinapangalagaan mo.

Alam mo kung sino talagang sumasalo ng kapalpakan ng mga ineendorso ninyo?

Hindi kayo sa taas.

Hindi yung mga nakaupo sa aircon na opisina.
Hindi yung mga lider na sagana sa abuloy.
Hindi yung mga ministrong kayang sabihing “pagsubok lang yan.”

Ordinaryong miyembro.

Yung minimum wage earner.
Yung kinakaltasan ng tax buwan-buwan.
Yung halos di na makahinga sa taas ng presyo ng pagkain, kuryente, pamasahe, gamot, at renta.

Tapos pagkatapos niyong tumulong magluklok ng mga inutil, sasabihin niyo:
“Masama na talaga ang mundo.”
“Nasa bibliya yan.”
“Magtiis hanggang wakas.”
“Pagsubok yan sa pananamplataya”

P*ta. Kayo mismo tumutulong magpalala ng sitwasyon tapos gagawin niyong spiritual lesson yung consequences?

Hindi ba pumapasok sa isip ninyo na kung totoong mahal ninyo mga miyembro ninyo, pipili kayo ng mga lider na magpapagaan ng buhay nila?? hindi yung paulit-ulit nagpapahirap sa bansa?

Ang mas nakakabwisit, habang hirap na hirap mga miyembro magbanat ng buto, tuloy pa rin ang abuluyan, tuloy pa rin ang pagsulong, tuloy pa rin ang guilt-tripping tungkol sa “tungkulin” at “pagpapasakop.”

Ang galing ng sistema:
Kayo tumutulong gumawa ng problema, tapos kayo rin magbebenta ng “pag-asa” at “pagtitiis” bilang solusyon.

KUNG TOTOONG MAY MALASAKIT KAYO SA MIYEMBRO NYO, MATAGAL NA SANA KAYONG NATUTONG MAHIYA SA EPEKTO NG IMPLUWENSYA NINYO SA BANSANG TO.

lumabas ka sa lungga mo di yung nagpapaputi ka lang ng bayag sa mga de aircon nyong bahay para maranasan mo hirap ng pilipino. MAHIYA KA NAMAN!!!