Ran into ex and new gf in pajamas on my old back deck
Uggghghhhh. I'm so grossed out.
I (47f) just finalized a divorce after 18 years with my ex (48m). He got the house, which is fine, except that I've been noticing the landscaping (that I did) looks absolutely killer right now, and I'm pissed because it's at its peak and I don't get to enjoy it.
I had to walk the next-door neighbor's dog this morning, so I go over there and walk him. I let the dog in the backyard, he runs around, and I'm cheering him on, making baby-voice noises at him like "YAY! Are you my baby?? Yes you are my sweet little baby!!"
I glance over to my old back yard, and am admiring how the trees have started to fill in.
I notice movement on the deck and realize my ex must be back there. I start to say "hi" when I notice he's acting all stealthy. Kind of creeping around (the deck is partially covered by trees) and I suddenly realize he must have someone back there.
It's 10:30 AM. Morning. I then notice a woman stand up with coffee in her hand. They are both in pajamas. Fuck.
I make direct eye contact with my ex, who is like in a ninja pose against the side of the house. I just quickly go back in the neighbor's house.
I want to take a shower. I'm so grossed out right now.
EDIT: My ex didn't do anything wrong. It was an uncomfortable and awkward situation. That's all.
We share two children and so no, I cannot move across town. I need to be close to my kids' school and I also don't want to leave the community I created over the past two decades. I am constantly at his (my old) house to get and drop off my kids and he is constantly at mine. I'm not sure why it's hard to empathize with a situation that is awkward and uncomfortable when neither of the parties is at fault?