u/Own_Letterhead_5804

Hello all,

This is my first post on reddit.

Disclaimer: This was originally written and posted on a subreddit on 3rd July. Due of lack of interaction, l am posting it here. Kindly consider.

But not the first time tho. l have been using reddit for a year ig without an account. Now l am free of all the exams(1st dropper) and made accounts accross sm platforms l wanted for the first time.

Anyways.

I am a NEET aspirant who also appeared for JEE Mains and Advanced. After Paper 2 at the Advanced center, a guy approached me. Coincidentally, he was also a NEET aspirant and l was about to join the same coaching center as him(just a different branch) for a one-month Re-NEET test series.

It is a small, highly successful institute in our state.Because he studied in all-boys, he mentioned he hadn't interacted with girls(even boys to certain extent) for a couple of years(11 and 12).

During our conversation, he was talking really fast(almost at 2x speed) while I struggled to keep up and was questioning me a lot which l was weirded out from.

At the end, he asked for my ID's across sm. When I told him I didn't have one, he immediately asked for my phone number. In a hurry to escape the situation, I gave it to him(a decision I now regret).Before I even reached home, he had already triple texted me. I usually avoid talking to strangers, but he wouldn't stop or try considering even after l told him l am not quite well going with strangers (especially online ones). He even switched numbers and insisted I text him there. Soon after, I moved into the coaching hostel, which prohibited mobile phones. I only checked my phone and replied during weekends when I went home, hoping the distance would slow things down.

After Re-NEET, he asked how I did. I had messed up my exam due to OMR shading errors. I grieved, processed it, and moved on(speaking as someone who did not have MBBS her only goal, because l know it is traumatic for people who wanted to be a doctor out of shear passion) When I shared this with him, he sent me unwanted advice, bluntly telling me to calculate my marks and "not keep my hopes up." It was a highly insensitive thing to say to someone who was hurting. Because we were strangers, I chose not to call out how his two years of isolation were severely affecting his social skills.

His behavior had crossed into creepy territory earlier, too. The very day after Advanced, he texted me saying we should both join the same medical college so we could be friends and all despite me telling him we should do our own thing about joining universities and living lives seperately. He would just question me about why l was uninterested about the same college thing. l understand he didn't have friends and was desperate but it was outright uncomfortable even after l schooled him as a senior.

Just after lecturing me about my exam, he began bragging about a brand-new phone his father bought him and how he got 1.5 lakhs as pocket money for scoring well. While I was genuinely happy for him initially and texted him so, but he wouldn't stop asking what my phone brand was and what l got and own and so on. Fed up, I stopped replying on WhatsApp and cleared his chats without reading them for a while. l used to read his texts though it were mostly why l am not replying and why l am not texting him. Today, he resorted to texting me through sms. Realizing he wouldn't stop testing my boundaries, I blocked him across all platforms.For context, I am an ambivert with no active social life or close friend circle. I rarely go out except with my parents. However, I know basic boundaries; I would never text a stranger that often questioning personal things even if l get my hands on their number.

Now I wonder did I do the right thing? I am not a rude person and hate coming across as one too, especially since I used to be a people-pleaser in high school(ik not a good thing and l am not one anymore). Am I the villain here, or was my reaction justified?

TL;DR(chatgpt): After an exam, a socially awkward fellow aspirant pressured me into giving him my phone number. He quickly became overbearing—triple-texting, making premature plans to attend the same medical college, and offering insensitive, unsolicited advice after l faced an exam setback. When he ignored my slow replies and turned to SMS to keep messaging me, l blocked him across all platforms.

Anyone from/going to/know someone from IISER? if so, please share how it is (academics/environment for south Indians/research space)

Vanako pa!!

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