u/P0tyri

Sziasztok! As a Finnish person in a relationship with a Hungarian, I have had many chances for cultural exchange with people from your wonderful country. But I can't help but wonder what the people outside my very small social bubble of Hungarians think, so I decided to ask random people on the internet.

What are the things that come to your mind when you think of Finland? Is it the cold, lakes, forests and sauna? Or maybe unemployment, alcoholism, depressing food and depressed people? Do you have more of a positive or negative view on us, or do you just not really think about us? I think every Hungarian I've personally met has had good things to say, but for example what I have read online has been a bit more mixed.

Some specific questions that came to my mind, answer if you feel like:

I think here, we often look up to you as our cool and sophisticated European cousins. Do you see it in the same way, are we your embarrassing and uncivilized redneck cousins? :D I have read that some Hungarians, who are very proud of their heritage, even refuse the idea of Finnish and Hungarian being related languages, because they can't imagine their nation, with its heroic history and rich culture, being related to a small and insignificant country with none of that. That's a bit sad if true, but I understand it.

-Is it true that Hungarians think Finns eat lots of fish? Several Hungarians I have talked to have had this idea, which sounds a bit funny to me. Sure we have our lakes and fishing is very popular, but I think you are the ones who are way more serious about eating fish, you literally have the halsütők!

-Is it really so weird that when Finns think of Hungary, the puszta is one of if not the first thing that comes to mind? The Hungarians I know found this very funny, but here you are known as the land of the puszta. People have called my girlfriend "the girl of the puszta" and asked about my trips "to the puszta" when I visited her (she lives in Budapest). The only thing about Hungary that is *maybe* as well known here as the puszta is paprika, but Balaton for example, not even close.

-How would Hungarians feel about a Finnish person moving there, marrying a Hungarian and starting a family? I have seen many news articles about Hungarians who moved to Finland, we find it very cool that some of you chose to move here :D

-Do Hungarians consider Finland as part of Europe or not? Of course, Hungary is undeniably European despite having a weird language just like us. But on top of that, unlike you, we are still genetically very different from our neighbors (Mongols, like the Swedes call us), and most importantly we are geographically separate from mainland Europe, almost like an island in the middle of nowhere. Because of this, many Finns talk about "Europe" like it doesn't include us, only referring to the countries south of the Baltic.

-How many of you know what the word "Turán" refers to? I know that Hungary had a strong turánism movement in the past, and even today many Finns, young people specifically, call ourselves turáns in a joking way, but when I asked my girlfriend and her family, none of them knew what it meant.

I (21M) am trying to type myself and managed to more or less narrow my core type down to 6(w5) or 9 (unsure of wing), but now I'm a little stuck. Of course I've read into it, and I know that the clearest difference between the types is how they deal with stress, so that's what I'll focus on in this post, but the way I act doesn't seem to be very clearly one of the two.

Whenever some kind of unexpected concern suddenly comes up, often my first reaction is to panic or freak out at least for a moment, like how I imagine a 6, or at least a reactive type, would, before getting into problem solving mode. Also, if something is stressing me out that I feel something needs to be done about, I can become visibly tense, irritable and anxious, and have a hard time focusing on anything else, getting mentally stuck until something is done. I've been described as an overthinker who can be quite tense at times, and especially when I was younger, I was kind of an intense and reactive person, though I'm way less like that these days.

But sometimes, I can also have a 9-like tendency of ignoring a problem, specifically ones that don't feel urgent to me. For example, recently someone told me how he found out he had a health condition which, from a few details of the story, crossed my mind as something I might also have. So I just kind of worried about it for days, didn't tell anyone because I didn't want to worry them or make a scene. I didn't even look it up because I guess I didn't dare to face the issue properly, or have the time and energy to deal with it with everything else going on in my life, and if I really did have it, it hadn't really affected my life. Finally, I realized by myself that I'm just overthinking and I don't actually have anything. In general, I don't like worrying others with my problems, but when it gets to the point where I feel that I have to tell about it, I might not be able to relax or focus on talking about anything else. But when it's something less overwhelming, people say I hide it well that something's on my mind and that I'm calming to be around.

When it comes to the way they say 9s distract themselves from stress, I can just partly relate. I could never in a million years do something like watching a show or actually *sleeping* the stress off like some sources say, with thoughts running wild in my head. But sometimes, when I'm stressed about something I can't do anything about, I might try to do something active like going for a run or playing a video game, so I'm forced to think about other things, but even then I have to constantly fight my mind to not wander back to the problem, and it doesn't always work.

The other thing that might be more 9 than 6 is related to taking precautions. Another example, I recently went on a bicycle trip with my girlfriend (definitely a 6) and I suggested we should camp for the nights to save on costs. She got worried about being able to carry all the camping gear with us in the hot weather, so I basically said that I'll carry all of it so if my idea turns out to be a bad one, it won't affect her, I'll deal with the consequences and I should be fine. On the other hand, she came up with all sorts of things to take with us just in case, which I wouldn't have thought of. And just in general, she's a person who is always prepared in everyday life with little things like water and hand sanitizer, while compared to this, I can be kind of forgetful or careless.

Somewhat related, I just realized that the things I can be careless about tend to be about physical safety, while I can even be obsessively careful about non-physical "threats". I guess everything from the previous paragraph fits into the first category, and I've taken some bigger physical risks that might have been kind of questionable in hindsight. But I was incredibly worried in the process of getting my current job (not easy in my country right now), totally paranoid to communicate perfectly and not to lose the chance by making a mistake with it, and whenever I'm filling some kind of paperwork, I have to sit down properly and carefully double check that everything is just right, even if there's no reason to think anything's wrong. Also, just this last weekend, I was with my family enjoying the summer holidays, but during all our activities, I felt some constant pressure about whether I will have time to deal with my summer courses for university if I'm doing this much other stuff, and even though I was having fun, I couldn't help but feel a bit uneasy at the same time.

Alright, I think this is enough and the post might already be a bit too long, but I wanted to describe everything in enough detail. So, basically, the question is just, can I be a 6 who can be a bit careless and sometimes avoiding or afraid to do anything about issues, or am I a weirdly overthinking, nervous and panicy 9. Right now I'm leaning towards >!6!< but I'm not too sure and any input would be appreciated :)