u/Pale_County_4483

TW: sexual assault

For context, I was seeing this therapist last year for like 6 months. My biggest concern was navigating life in Japan as a Southeast Asian, and how I kinda regret moving here for uni. I told her about the racism I'm facing daily and she said it's just... the country's thing. Another time I told her I was perpetually scared that I could be sexually assaulted. She then asked me if I'd been assaulted here in Japan. I wanted to clarify if she meant only in Japan, and she said that's what she meant. I was confused about why she asked this, and why she meant in Japan only. Then she asked me if I have any evidence that it would happen to me. Like... it wasn't the point? I left therapy not long after that. Now I actually got assaulted twice in Japan, wow. But many times therapists just stay neutral on things that were never neutral in the first place. My concern was something every woman face everyday. I hate how apolitical they are.

I (21F) used to take lessons by this ballet teacher who is very strict. One time I wasn't using my glutes the right way so she spanked me (I think she meant this as a joke because she laughed afterwards). Despite this I still attended her lessons. I thought about talking to her about this but I wasn't sure what to say. Another time when she was bending down to correct my feet, our butts touched and I freaked out. I stopped coming and reported it to the studio. They said they were sorry it happened to me and they have talked it through with the teacher. They said they thought it wouldn't happen again. I'm not coming to her classes anymore, but I still feel weird when I remember it.