Moikka, mulla ois siis palvelus loppumassa tossa joulukuussa, ja mietin että voiko kevään yhteishaun opinnot aloittaa sitten heti tammikuusta, vai onko opintopaikan lykkäys automaattisesti se 1 lukuvuosi?
Hello, I started training about 4 months ago, and have had a painful problem with my hips/ hip flexors. So I initially started getting symptoms after kicking with bad form, also propably due to overloading my hip flexors and muscles all around them. Since then I have been focusing more on stretching and proper form.
The pain isn't as bad as it used to be, when I first got these painfull symptoms I couldn't lift my legs at all / move them around much at all. The pain got more intense when I lifted my knee above my hip.
Now I can kick and do all sort of stuff, but I still feel a kind of stiffness/soreness and pain especially when moving legs around, sometimes I hear popping and it's more or less painful.
I wonder if this is a common injury and what I should do to heal, is it strenghtening or more stretching? So far I haven't found stretching to be all that relieving but I still do a longer session of stretching when I'm about to do kicking.
TLDR; Hip flexor pain when kicking and lifting knees above hips, was wondering if anyone has ever dealt with this problem before and how to possibly advance in my situation before I contact a physio. Thanks <3
We've been together for about 1,5 years, its been a turbulent and somewhat weird relationship. It hasn't been toxic but she is a highly anxious person, with an anxious attatchment style. Im unsure if im even in love with her, but breaking up with her seems like a thing too hard to do. Im scared of she'll take it, I respect her as a person but I do not see a future with her, she doesn't understand this. She fundamentally believes that she is the reason that I do not love her on the same level that she loves me, and she's right, I don't. I don't want to sound like an asshole, but I've had a hard time connecting with her and at this point I don't even want to try.
I don't know how to break up with her. I can't make her see that I don't have a problem with her personally, I do love her and wish her all the best but I am not treating her like I have treated my past partners, and it depresses me that I can't bring myself to do it, she does deserve more than I can give. But I can't just go "It's not you, it's me".
There have been times I've brought up my feelings of disconnection, but she desperately seems to take it as a problem with her, "What can I do to save this, why am i unloveable". It genuinely pisses me off, but I feel kind of suffocated by her emotions and self deprecative views. I don't have a reason for the breakup, other than "I don't see a future for this" but I can't explain why. I'd like to make it as "unsucky" as possible for her, but the problem seems to be my lack of understanding about my emotions. I can't be too straight forward, I fear that will activate her negative world view of her "unloveability".
I don't care about trying to fix this relationship but I don't want to come off as some sort of asshole, though I guess it can't be avoided. All in all I'd just like to know how you handle very insecure people.
TLDR; Most likely emotionally checked out of the relationship with my (F21) girlfriend, having a hard time breaking up with her, don't want her to spiral into anxious thought about her worth, would like a civil non messy breakup but I'm very scared of how she'll take it. Advice on handling insecure people and breakups?