u/ParticularCollar4385

Who Was There To Greet My Dog

Who Was There To Greet My Dog

My sweet pup Dewey passed away yesterday morning - I'm absolutely devastated and heartbroken 😭💔. He was a chronic IVDD case and had herniated 2 more spinal disks (making 4 herniations total). We had to make the painful decision to let him go peacefully because when with rehabilitation or a 3rd surgery, his quality of life would have been terrible.

I would love to see who's at the dog park up there to play with him 🥹.

u/ParticularCollar4385 — 4 days ago

I don't know how to cope

I had to make the unfortunate and very, very difficult decision to euthanize my Dewey 2 days ago....im having a terrible time coping with everything. He would have been 8 in July.

Dewey was a repeat IVDD case; 2 spinal surgeries, lots of meds, acupuncture therapy, and crate rest. He could walk, like 75%, he was never 100% from the 1st surgery, and we always used a rear harness. Towards bed time this past Friday night, I noticed he wasn't peeing, but dribbling, he couldn't get up and was dragging his legs (super red flag), and his tummy was almost rock hard. So I put him in a carrier, took him to the ER vet, and was told he had herniated 2 more disks!!

I had 3 options - surgery (his last one was just 4 months ago), take home & manage with meds, but he would need 24/7 care, or let him pass peacefully. I thought about it for hours... going back and forth. Surgery wasn't an option, not financially, and I wasn't going to put him through that again for a 3rd time. I also have a special needs toddler at home who needs 'round the clock care and I knew I would not be able to give Dewey the care he really deserved if I took him home. I've done all that I could physically and financially few Dewey, he was my baby!! I had since he was 8 weeks old. I made the tough decision to let him go peacefully so he wouldn't be miserable and in pain for more years to come, but im still grappling at the decision. I've mourned Dewey more than I mourned my own Dads passing. Idk how to cope with this😓. I keep wondering if I made the right decision for him or for me. I don't have family would be able or willing to assist, and if I didn't have a child, I'd be able to give him 100% of my attention like he deserved. I just can't get over the fact that he's not here.

u/ParticularCollar4385 — 4 days ago

I (33F) don't even know where to start. I live in my moms house with my mom, my "partner" (who isn't much of a partner), and our 3yr old son. I want out. From my mom and partner, I just want to take my son away and start over just the two of us. I function mentally, physically and emotionally when it's just us two. When I don't have to worry about managing my partners day to day and tasks that he needs to get done, or my moms bipolar mood swings and "why always me" attitude.

My partner hasn't said a word to me in 2 days because of a petty argument that was barely even an argument!! He walks around and interacts with our son as if I'm not here, walking around me, talking around me, and now my mom has a poor attitude towards me also for some unknown reason. I don't know what I did to deserve this treatment from anyone. I clean the house, I make dinners, I do pretty much everyone's laundry except my partners. I work, I do daycare drop offs and pick ups, I go grocery shopping, I do bathtimes. I'm basically a single mom living in a house with other capable adults who I feel like are watching my life unfold as if it's a damn reality show. I'm depressed, I'm overeating, my anxiety has crept back in.

My mom is planning on selling her house within the next year or so and wants me and my son to move out of state with her. But I know his father would not allow that and I don't want to have to go to court. I also don't want my son to be that far from his dad. But he and I can't live together anymore, that much I know for sure. I just.....idk what to do. I'm breaking and no one cares and I have no one to talk to about it.

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u/ParticularCollar4385 — 22 days ago