Mom refusing to ask for help from appropriate sources
This is mostly venting but here it goes:
Mom is going on vacation with a friend for 4 days. She is taking her laptop because she needs to pay bills but is not good with computers and doesn’t know how to connect to resort wi fi. I’ve told her (not just this time but before) that she can ask the resort staff for help to get her connected.
But, she keeps saying she “doesn’t want others to know she can’t use the computer” but my mother is 72. I REALLY don’t think people expect her to be tech literate. (Although I kind do, considering she’s had a personal computer since she was 54 and had ample time to learn to use technology she actively refused to, saying that using technology was “beneath her” but that’s another post for another day 😬)
Rather thank ask the staff for help, she said she will just be late on her bills. But like…why? It would take the staff 5 seconds to help her connect but she would rather just not ask for help?!
What’s really grinding my gears is that she has no issue asking me for help with phone and computer almost all day, every day, but when she needs to ask for help from someone’s who’s job it is to help her during her stay, for something quick, ONE TIME during her stay, she just…refuses? Huh?
I am trying to cope but telling myself that “as backwards as I believe her decision is, it’s her right and she has freedom to make decisions I disagree with” but I just know she’ll most likely guilt trip me about down the road. Ugh