Ex stopped paying support without warning
So with the advice of our mediator, my ex finally decided to start playing child support to me several months after we split. Now he hasn't paid since May and when I asked him about it, he said it was a temporary agreement and he can't pay anymore because he took out a HELOC to pay me out from the house we owned, rather than use the over 500k he has in stocks and savings to pay me out. The payments on the loan are his excuse.
I'm at a loss here. In September when I moved out, he left the kids alone with me for 11 days supposedly as he was working to sell or rent out our shared property. Long story short, there was a lot of deception throughout the relationship, and the coparenting dynamic has been contentious due to his deception. When eventually I filed for a child support, he was incensed that they sent an income verification to his job.
He ended up threatening during mediation to sue me for defamation for telling my personal friends the truth, that he was physically and emotionally abusive toward me (still emotionally abusive), which of course he denies. So I agreed to drop the child support case and we agreed to the support arrangement as it previously stood.
So now I'm like....what do I even do? We live in one of the most HCOL areas of the country and he made more than 200k more than me last year. We are only here because of his job.
Anyway, sorry if it was a little vent-y but I'm kind of at a loss as to what to do. I'm scared to file for child support again, but I am concerned that it is the only option.