u/Pentax_Ho

37 year old man, 6'4", a little extra. I don’t pretend to have life figured out. Most of the time, I think it’s strange, confusing, and much shorter than I like to admit. So I try to make something worthwhile out of the time I have. Traveling to new places, having new experiences, good conversations, ridiculous stories, and moments that actually feel like they meant something. I’m curious by nature, and that curiosity tends to get a little out of hand. I like learning how things work, especially when I can actually make something with my hands. At various points that has meant building a 40-foot trebuchet, turning flax into linen, growing tobacco and curing it for a cigar, messing around with old processes and materials, or deciding that some wildly impractical project sounds interesting enough to try. I like making things partly for the result, but probably more because I enjoy understanding the process. That same curiosity follows me outside. I like smaller hikes where there’s enough time to actually notice where you are and to collect moss <3. I’m drawn to overlooked details, texture, light, decay, growth, and all the little things most people walk past. That probably explains some of my taste in art, too. I love chiaroscuro and analog photography: shadow, grain, imperfection, dramatic light, and images that feel like they have some physical presence to them. A fan of atmospheric and emotive over something polished. Music occupies a similar place in my life. My tastes move between punk rock, indie pop and folk, jazz, dream pop, and shoegaze. I like music that either has something to say or creates a world you can disappear into for a few minutes. Currently in my Lizzy McAlpine/Phoebe Bridgers phase. I do have an uncomfortable tendency to measure myself by what I accomplish. I know intellectually that a career, degree, paycheck, or collection of achievements isn’t the same thing as a person, even if I occasionally forget that. I’m still figuring out what success means when nobody else is keeping score. For all of my curiosity and tendency to wander toward strange projects, what I want in the long run is surprisingly grounded. I want someone to experience life with. Road trips and adventures, concerts, lazy Sundays, projects that get slightly out of control, ordinary evenings, and eventually the little traditions that become a life together. I’d like to settle down with someone, and if life takes us there, maybe start a family. I’m not really looking for someone who fits neatly into the life I already have. I’m looking for someone curious enough to help build the next part of it with me.

Spartanburg, SC