u/PerpetualDishes

I'm a 38f , and I look better in person. I'm not photogenic. Depending on the angle if the camera I even look like a completely different person and when it's straight on I get nervous or tense and end up making a weird face.

I know I'm okay looking I'm not stunning, experience shows I have a "vibe" that is attractive definitely, but physical looks alone nothing spectacular. And to be honest I also think, I have a nice face, but I'm a little overweight, and they might be it there too.

My problem is I'll talk to men online and basically it's all good until I send a photo then they either stop responding or say they aren't interested. I try to send a mediocre photo , so that when we meet in person it'll be a surprise up, not down.

Bring that I do look so very different in photos I'm afraid if I send a nice one where I look like an 8 or something, we will meet and they'll be disappointed.

So if I send a photo where I look like a 5 , and we meet and I'm a couple steps up from that, then it's okay.

It's a very hard experience though, every time it happens. Sometimes I wish photos weren't so prevalent in life in general today.

Met this guy on the apps. Decent looking. Not a great texter. We had a phone call. Not a great chatter either he was awkward and could really carry a convo.

He lives about 2.5 hrs from my city and I suggested meeting halfway somewhere his responses were like I could make a weekend trip out there that'd be fun . And I'm like up to you , I typically just do like a coffee for a first meet.

He tried to schedule a meet but I had too much goin on. I also told him I was moving so just wanted to be friends. He stopped trying to schedule a meet and started texting me about stuff he was doin at work and sending photos. I would as well send photos of my work. It went on like this, every 3 days it so I'd get a text and an exchange like this.

Finally I said hey I don't think there's enough reciprocated interest to continue chatting.

He responded a day later, apologized for being inconsistent. Then followed up and said he'd be more attentive.

Then later, sent me photos of his time on vacation, and photos of I guess his family and food they're having and stuff he's seeing. Calling me darling, and cutie and stuff.

We haven't even met yet. He hadn't asked me anything about me , only what I'm doing in my day, and sharing his day and giving me pet names and it's weird.

If we had met already, gotten to know each other, decided we liked each other, it idk... We're already dating, I'd expect this sort if communication.

But I have no idea who the little kids are in his photos and I don't understand sending that to someone you haven't even met yet.

I don't know how to respond to him

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