I’m the jerk now… I wish they told me
I (50/F) moved overseas in January. Visiting parents for the first time and sleeping under their roof for the first time in 30 years for 3 weeks.
I’ve been frustrated arguing with my dad over everything because he is acting so weird and overbearing and particular over how i drive their car and lock the doors and cook and eat and conduct my life… I didn’t read the signs I’ve just acted like a total brat… and my dad (after having a very very hard time finding the words to get it out) said he has Alzheimers and is starting a “18 month program” whatever that means.
I feel like a jerk… I am suddenly mourning my dad who is already not the same and have already lived with my mom (25 years ago) taking care of her own mom with memory in decline (my mom would do weird things like send me flowers addressed from her mom when my grandma already didnt know who i was anymore). I just feel so terrible about what my mom must be going through and also how mean ive been to my dad. I’m with my folks for the next 2 weeks then I go back home 6000 miles away…
Please share if anyone knows what an 18 month program means and anything else that might be helpful for me to know or understand at this point.