u/Personal_Pair6430

I know this is dependent on a ton of variables, for example, what line of work I would do if I moved on (although I want to do intelligence work) and actually be successful in getting into the private sector, and wether I became an officer in the coast gaurd, but realistically if everything went right where would I most likely make more money overall?

Might be a dumb question but would this impact my career somehow if I go into the military and later get a federal job?

Was wondering about this because the higher pay would be nice of course but I want to enlist first to see if I like the coast gaurd, and not to take on a bunch of extra responsibilities right away

I just wanted to get a time frame I’m also nervous cause I’ve smoked weed recently and need all the time I can get to detox and pass the urine test, and also I need time to study for ASVEB

I graduated recently and my dad decided to upload photos to his Facebook, which showcased photos of the day with me and my family.

This by itself is fine. I understand he had pride in what I accomplished. I understand this was one way of showing that. I am appreciative that he wants to celebrate me. However, one of the photos he uploaded was one I really did not one posted. And I understand the people my dad is friends with on Facebook wouldn’t care about how I look. But the reality is I do, and I think it’s reasonable for me to not want a photo I find unflattering of myself to be posted online. I think it’s fair of me to have a preference about how I’m being presented publicly. I really believe this is a normal boundary to establish, especially because he frequently uploads photos to his Facebook of me where I feel I don’t look good, but usually I don’t ask him to remove those because I understand he means well

What frustrates me about this is his response to my request. I called him when I became aware of this photo being uploaded. I asked him, very politely if bluntly, if he could please remove this one particular photo. He proceeded to get angry at me, and agreed, but then hung up the phone very abruptly.

From there he proceeds to text me that he’ll delete this one photo, but then he ties that promise to certain conditionalities he wants me to fulfill before he does so. I refuse because I think it’s unfair of him to demand that. He then proceeds to inject new topics into this convo: he critiques my independence, he brings up how other people who are pictured don’t have an issue with anything that’s been posted, which I feel dismisses what I’ve expressed individually by implying that because everyone else is ok with it I should be ok with it to. And finally he texts me he deleted the whole post because he’d “rather post nothing than be censored.” It just seems ridiculous to me for him to say that, because I believe family members should be able to ask for photos they don’t like of themselves to be taken down, and I think that’s normal, not censorship .

Overall, I feel like I’m being punished for trying to set a normal boundary. And again, I’ve only ever asked this one time. There are many more instances of him ignoring my requests to not post photos of me I don’t like, which are usually instances I let pass. This time was the exception. He’s also not communicating with me right now, and is basically ignoring me.