r/feeld

I have 25 likes but can swipe for weeks and not get a single match. Are they fake likes to get me to buy premium? Or does it just not put the people that liked you in your swipe feed so that you pay premium to see them?

About to delete this app so just checking before.

I stopped paying for Majestic.

Suddenly, I'm very popular. Lots of "likes".

The funnier thing is that all the new likes have very simple, suspiciously single word usernames. I won't post the actual names here, but they're similar to "Girl", "Kitten", "Friday", "May".

When I was a paying member, the names were more unique, with unusual spellings, there would be numbers, or punctuation; something like "Ms.So&So".

I'm not sure what I'm pointing to here, or if I'm making much sense, but if I were a betting man, I'd bet that I after re-upping to "see who liked me", I'd see a dozen phony profiles.

Or something. Am I being weird?

I'm a 36(F) sub (bedroom only, not 24/7). l was single for a couple of years, used Feeld basically the entire time, and met a lot of really lovely play partners that way. The most useful things I learned to weed out people who are less experienced, unwilling to learn, more vanilla than me, or unsafe are to set boundaries early and often and be clear about what I want without mentioning specific sex acts. Setting boundaries early about when I'd like to actually have sex, or not, removes people who treat the website like a paid sex work service (nothing wrong with that, but I'm not a sex worker). And so does being vague about the kinds of submission I like in my profile. I also never sent nudes in advance for that reason. I used Fet to vet people, especially by checking their affiliation groups.

I generally had positive experiences on Feeld. Without Feeld I don't think I ever would have met my partner, let alone known he's also into kink. The platform gave us a way to be upfront about our kink interests in a way that vanilla platforms, like Hinge, don't. Despite its many flaws I'm glad it's out there - and it's a lot better than going on my zillionth date with vanilla people who I'd never be sexually compatible with. Totally valid to take dating breaks, but don't give up if you hope for a committed, kinky relationship.

I was curious about disconnecting from a partner in my constellation temporarily. However, when I go to do that, I get a wanting message that states I “can’t undo” it. Anybody know what this actually means? Feeld won’t allow me to add this person again at a later time?

I keep hearing about women getting tons of likes on Feeld. I'm 48, decently attractive (look much younger), fit, and a good profile. But I really don't get a lot of likes. Just a couple of week (from not very interesting men). Could it be because my search preference is too narrow? I find I have little in common with early thirties men, and twenty-year olds are just too young for me. I'm a woman seeking a man. I'm in the Bay Area with plenty of people!

I’m trying to run a clean test with Feeld Uplift and would like feedback from people who have actually used it.

Context:

* 35 Straight man

* Partnered / ENM

* Located in Northern NJ, dating mostly NYC + NNJ

* Profile recently cleaned up

* Trying not to waste the 24-hour Uplift window

My current thinking is:

Sunday evening around 6:30–7:30 PM might be the best time because it captures Sunday night scrolling and carries into Monday after-work browsing.

Second option would be Thursday around 7 PM, since people may be planning weekend dates.

For people in NYC/NJ or similar large metro areas:

Has Uplift actually worked for you?

What day/time gave the best results?

Would Sunday evening better than Thursday evening?

Maybe it’s just me and/or my location. I’ve been on and off the app for the last few years, and I’ve noticed that most of the couple profiles on the app I’ve come across are only looking for other couples or single women to play with and the single women profiles are for the most part only looking for other women to play with. Only likes I seem too get are from bots from 100s of miles away that don’t reply back, escorts looking for money, or people trying to scam me.

I (re)joined Feeld earlier this week and paid for majestic (I’m a straight cis guy and understand that’s kinda a requirement for someone like me). I know it’s always been a little glitchy/buggy and thought/was told it’s much worse for cis women who have an inordinate amount of interest/activity, but knew all that going in. Was just gonna deal with glitches every so often.

Three days in and it’s almost laughable how bad it is. After about 2 min of swiping, the profiles start freezing. They’ll reloaded in midst of liking/unliking multiple times, resulting in unwanted likes/dismissals. My phone gets very, very hot and I watch my battery plummet. Like I’m talking 1% a minute or more. I’m on a 14pro but never have had any issues like this with other apps. I’ve gone through all the recs to resolve, but don’t have to tell anyone there’s widespread frustration over the tech failures.

It’s not news, and by no means an I the first to bring it up, but I’m dumbfounded as to how it’s this bad. The company was founded over 10 years ago (~2014). There’s about 100k downloads in the iOS App Store. This isn’t some solo entrepreneur project or ai-coded startup founded 3 months ago. There’s enough alternatives that never seem to have these issues.

I doubt they’ll ever figure it out if they haven’t already, so I’m less worried about fixing everything and more curious about how/why it’s so bad.

My feed suddenly got flooded with straight women looking for vanilla + monogamous. what gives?

I (36m) have used majestic in the past and am currently only using free version. It’s evident that the app has gotten really scammy with hiding likes, as a man I have no real desire to see the 13 likes that I have, knowing I swiped left on at least half. Clearly it’s the age old dynamic of men sending all the likes and women sorting through all of them…pretty much these days the only matches I get are from Majestic users, it’s rarely ever another free user.

So I’m wondering if anyone has noticed that having majestic will help match with users who aren’t also paying for the app and to avoid just being a hidden like to free users.

I know Feeld was originally an app for finding thirds and arranging threesomes etc. But does anyone else wish they'd make it so only single people can have single people profiles? others should specify within their profile settings (not in their bio) that they're in a relationship, I'm just sick of having to trawl through profiles to find it's a couple or a person who's in a couple. Search settings should be able to filter out those that aren't compatible with us.

Does anyone know what developments the app developers are actually working on? Is there any new functionality coming in the near future? What's happening to make the lagging better?

Boyfriend and I met on feeld. He paused his profile first after I said something about his profile still being active. Said he had forgot to. After he paused - our chat was then a blank profile picture and said “ his name paused the chat” Then I go and check today and his profile pic is back and it says “ his name left the chat”. I confronted him and he says he deleted/ deactivated his account. But chat is telling me he could have reactivated and unmatched with me trying to be sneaky or he really did delete his account. Can someone please tell me what they know on this?

See question:
Is it possible he reactivated unmatched with me and then deactivated his account ? Someone is telling me this is a possibility. But then wouldn’t the entire profile and thread still disappear? Or would it say x left the chat?

I am concerned that someone will do a reverse image search and find me on other social media platforms and then try to extort me (which I would not pay). I also could not advance in my account set up until I provided 6 pictures - is this normal?

And it includes heteroflexible...

...at least you tried.

If you click on LGBTQIA you expect to match with people who are actually queer, and attracted to the same sex. Heteroflexible does not mean "bi-curious". It means straight, but will make exceptions*. I don't want to interact with straight people who are working out if they'll make an exception for me. I don't know any gay or queer men who want that either.

This app is so hostile to queer people, despite using us in all of its marketing.

*cool bro, I'm okay if you touch my shoulder in the threesome

just wondering what the term means to you, psychologically, emotionally, aesthetically, sexually? there’s so much discussion here about lack of kinky people on feeld, too many ‘vanilla’ profiles etc that i’m wondering what/who you want to see?

I got the dreaded text from my buddy that he saw my girl on the dating site. According to the app, her location changed as she went from her spot to my spot and back home.

Screenshots show pics of her and her interests and location change.

She claims a friend set it up, used her photos and paid for a premium profile because she wanted to live through her.

She Says friend has her Apple location or something and that’s why it moved.

If possible, this seems like a lot of tech leg work for some house wives.

I know I’m being gaslight but if anyone able to shed some light besides the obvious, I’m all ears.

And I am ready to die on this hill.

I have been on feeld for years now.

As a pansexual male in his 40s who have been poly and in kink atmosphere for most of his adult life, this is the worst I have seen Feeld crew.

It’s dumpster fire.

I am someone who takes the time to get to know people, negotiate consent and make sure everyone is safe before a scene.

A proper BDSM scene takes lot of energy and time to prepare, many people who are not experienced in these encounters have no idea.

And this is where it gets frustrating; seasoned kinksters understand this, even poly people who are not necessarily kinky understand it because they understand the importance of communication.

If you can’t communicate you can’t do poly, you just can’t. It doesn’t work.

BDSM is the same; if you can’t or don’t want to communicate, this is simply not the right environment for you.

I have to vet people to make sure they know what they are getting themselves into.

I get lot of attention because I have images of my dungeon setup on my profile, St Andrew’s cross, slave cage, whips, canes, sybian machines.

And I am someone who looks after his subs, are you experiencing intense sub drop? You can stay the night, I’ll cuddle you and cook breakfast and I’ll take you out for a nice walk at botanic gardens nearby.

Are you feeling emotional? I’ll acknowledge them, I am open to love.

I talk about all these when I connect with people.

True kinksters listen with great care and then express themselves and I listen then we agree on a date and time and meet for a coffee.

None of these encounters failed, until now.

I don’t know what happened to feeld.

When I express myself people take it as a sexting and I can tell they are doing things to themselves.

Then I get kink dumping.

People start talking about their wildest fantasies before they even introduce themselves.

Done even declare themselves a wife, sub or slave.

I am like, wait, what’s going on?

Then once postnut clarity kicks in, they disconnect.

These are all vanilla or monogamous people.

Every-single-time.

Now I never used to accept likes or pings from monos or vanillas.

My method of using feeld was to find a reliable submissive, form a BDSM dynamic and turn off feeld.

Some of my subs move interstate -I am from Australia, people like moving around here- be it for work or family.

So I’d come back every year or two.

And recently I realised it is taking me longer to find a reliable person.

Because I have to comb through literally hundreds of carbon copy profiles that all look the same; empty bio or has a cringe tinder one liner; “don’t be boring, I am funnier than you, here for a good time not a long time” etc.

And photos are all taken in same fashion; tongues are sticking out, there is a drink in hand, deep cleavage.

I am swiping through endless parade of empty biographies with naked torsos.

At this stage what do I care what anyone’s face look like really?

Then after swipe no:25 I come across an almost extinct kinkster.

Why?

Why are all these people here?

There is already a Tinder and bubble for this, why bring this crap to feeld?

This space is literally the only app we have that we can connect to other alternative folk like ourselves, why are you ruining it for us?

And it’s not only vanilla women, it’s all these dudebros from other apps that follow them here.

I had to separate my profile from constellation with my enm partner because I was getting overwhelmed with all the basic bros trying to get it on with my partner.

My partner paused her profile after she got 4000 likes and 200 pings.

She is a dominant female who dates submissive men outside our relationship, as we are both dominant it feels naturals for us to date other submissives, so Feeld was perfect, until now.

If you are not into kink or poly, please consider your options, not only you are not likely to find what you are looking for here, but you are just ruining the balance of this app.

Please go back to tinder and bumble.

I don’t try to push kink in those places, it’d look odd.

You pushing vanilla and mono on feeld looks odd.

And there is too many of you.

I'm just a random Internet stranger who's been using feeld for over a year with a fair amount of success but also a lot of complaints. I'm a white, cis, pan, poly, neurodivergent, kinky female. ("Kinky" here means I am deeply invested in practicing BDSM. It's not just a hobby, it's a need. "Kinky" =/= "she fucks, I should hit her up for easy sex". No. It is not that.)

Here's my utterly biased opinion on profiles I skip, no matter how "hot" you may be, in the event it helps people spruce up their profiles and increases their chances of matching with someone like me.

1. "Looking for like minded people". This literally says nothing about you or what you're looking for and all too often it's just a standalone sentence with an otherwise sparse profile. What do I do with this information? I can only extrapolate that you're boring and have nothing interesting to share.

2. Describing yourself as "fun" and saying you're looking for fun. Come on people. For one thing, you never define "fun" to you. For another, who doesn't want fun? "Yes I'm here looking for someone to have a terrible time with." Of course you're looking for fun! I've read this so many times on so many profiles that my eyes just glaze over and I instantly hit the minus sign.

3. Your profile has typos. This just makes me think you're lazy. You're trying to find a date and you can't even be bothered to read over your own profile to make sure it makes sense? At the very least get chatgpt to proofread it if you have no one else to turn to and can't do it yourself. It's 2026. We have countless free tools to help us. Use them.

4. "No drama." I read this as "if any part of your life happens and gets in the way of our fucking, I'm going to drop you." No thanks. I can't stop being a human. Sometimes my kid gets sick or my mom needs help or god forbid, you said something that hurt me and I'd like to talk about it so we can get back on the same page. Fml right?

5. "Discreet." Cheating. No thank you.

6. Profiles with no words. Just, why?

7. Profiles with no face pics. This has never ever worked out. I've matched with faceless profiles because the words describe what I'm looking for but once face pics are shared, I find out I'm not physically interested in the person. It's a shit situation for all. Never again.

8. "Ask me anything." The truth is, I WILL ask you anything. That's how I get to know people. I want to actually know you, your context, your perspective, your thoughts. But this reads as "I can't be bothered to write a proper profile and I definitely won't be bothered to put effort into learning about you. You can ask about me though." It's like a big banner that tells me you're lazy and I will be skipping.

Bonus rant:

A lot of these have been said time and time again but I can't stress this enough. Be a person first. Yes I'm submissive, yes I'm looking for a dominant partner (that's the D in BDSM, not just "I like to be in control during sex" - these are totally different things). But that doesn't mean I want to see your dick before I even meet you. Yes I like dicks! But I don't care what your dick looks like. If you have a horrible personality and treat me like shit but have "the most beautiful cock I've ever seen" I'm STILL not going to date you.

It also doesn't mean I want you to talk to me like I'm just a fucktoy before we even know each other's names. Being submissive doesn't mean I bow down to anyone. Its only fulfilling if I *want* to submit to you. Make yourself interesting. Make yourself date worthy. Don't get sexual with me in texts right off the bat. So many people do this that I'm literally bored of it. I'm a human and I need to feel safe.

Attraction is complex. It takes effort and strength and humility. If you're not up for that, maybe do something else with your time. If you read this far, here is your trophy 🏆 my friend.

Getting spanked and tied up doesn’t make you a freak, Sarah.

The amount of people on this app who claim group relationship dynamics/play isn’t considered kinky/freaks is absurd. From my experience, there are far more people in the BDSM community than swing/poly/enm/group play community.

Freak determines the fringe of kink.

You like getting spanked, tied up, hair pulled?

Congratulations. You and every other woman on this app do.

But finding a bisexual woman who enjoys group play? They are called unicorns for a reason.

People on this app need a reality check.