r/feeld

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I see so many people here who struggle. Amd I think, honestly, its often them and not the fault of feeld.

Feeld has been absolutely solid for me for both hookups and finding women for FFM with me an my partner.

Its been better for FFM than all other apps combined.

Edit: reposted to fix typo

So there has obviously been a lot of discourse online lately about Feeld and who should and shouldn’t be using the app

I’m someone who is monogamous, but I originally heard about Feeld almost exclusively through people in the bdsm community. Because of that I always understood it to be an app geared toward people who were more open minded, kinky, nontraditional, and interested in alternative relationship structures

But lately I’ve seen a lot of discourse saying that monogamous and kinky people shouldn’t be on the app at all? Then other people say monogamous people are fine as long as they’re looking for something casual or are kinky while others seem to think being monogamous automatically means you don’t belong there???

At this point, I feel like the general consensus is just… confused?? Every person I ask seems to have a completely different interpretation of who the app is actually intended for and who shouldn’t be using it.

So maybe this is a dumb question, but who the fuck is Feeld actually for?

The branding and advertising very clearly seem to target enm/polyamorous, queer, kinky, and generally nontraditional people. But if that’s the case, why is there so much hostility toward monogamous people using the app?

Are monogamous people welcome if they’re kinky? What about monogamous people who are queer? What about someone who is completely vanilla but looking for casual sex?

I genuinely don’t understand where the line is supposed to be because everyone seems to have a different answer

Kind of odd to me. I still only get 1 ping a day. The only benefit is to see likes? I'm confused.

Read the profile. Furthermore, hot take, if your interest says FFM, and you don't have separate profiles, I immediately believe it's the man pushing the woman to have a joint profile to fulfill his own fantasy.

r/abettertake had a really good ask in their post and I had a follow-up.

Many of you said that it was overwhelming especially within the first few hours of creating the account. Almost immediately you'd find yourself with 100s of likes and 10-20 pings. Somebody made this great metaphor about looking to buy specific underwear but just having the whole store dump a massive amount of underwear in your lap leaving you to sort through it all.

My question after reading all the comments is, if you could make one change to how Feeld works, or I suppose online dating in general, to make it easier for you, what would that change be? Also how could we (I say we but I really mean the app developers) make it so you're not overwhelmed and can actually use the app?

I'm just curious about what the experience is like for women and female presenting users who are seeing hundreds or even thousands of likes on Feeld. What does that sort of situation do to you?

Like as a man on the app here - even as one half of a couple - I've got crickets. And it's a similar story on other apps too. And even though I know I'm generally pretty confident and my self esteem is pretty healthy, it's hard to not take it quite personally (even though I know my situation is the same as most other men). As a pshychotherapist friend of mine put it - the human brain didn't evolve to deal with this much rejection, and it sure does take its toll after a while.

But what's it like on the other side? What does it do to your self esteem? How does it make you feel about yourself, about how you value yourself? How does it make you feel about online dating, or dating in general?

I have a hard time meeting sexual compatible partners on mainstream dating apps. I'm 45F, have a high libido, and am comfortable with intense sexuality once I'm into someone. Perhaps it's that sexual sensibilities are somewhat cultural. I live in the US but am from Europe originally and find attitudes here remain puritanical or, relatedly, porn-obsessed. I am tired of men who claim to "love sex" but can't communicate about it, don't read the room about what I find enjoyable, also don't follow direct feedback...

At the same time, I'm not into BDSM and the most "kinky" thing about me is that I love (receiving) breast worship and am a sensualist. I'm told that's "vanilla" on other subs.

Could Feeldl be for me?

29F looking for my first experience with a woman. I'm married and want my husband to be there with us. Is this possible to find on feeld?
Let me know your thoughts please

Ir appears Feeld in Europe is one of the most common dating apps. Everyone uses it for just about any dating intention. Swinging and kink are just power of their normal dating options.

Currently in Spain. A few funny anecdotes.

1. One guy we were chatting with responded with; “I’m into all things morbid”. Instead of freaking out, I simply asked if he intended to use that word. He said it was translated from ‘morose de castello’ . Translation is indeed morbid. But with a little deeper research it was found the Valencia and north into Catalonia use morose for anything taboo or kinky.

2. My profile shows both my wife and my girlfriend. I tried to explain I was searching for my wife and me. Multiple men thought I was traveling with both. I had to explain I only travel with my wife. And my girlfriend is straight and me wife is bi and we three don’t play together.

3. They don’t use euphemisms like’play’. They just say they want to fuck.

But the point is Feeld is very busy with a lot of good matches in Europe.

For me it has probably been matching with a woman I was casually flirting with at a coffee shop the week prior, only to end up seeing each other on Feeld later and matching lol.

I've recently signed up to Feeld and it seems really inclusive... Just wondered if there are any other trans people who could let me know there experiences and if they've found relationships on Feeld?

We joined the app to find a third for our couple and say this in our bio. Yet all our likes are men and never get one female or a return like, where are we going wrong?

I’m very much an emotion before sex girl. Im very ADHD and that makes me curious and open minded. To me the physical aspect of a relationship is the most intense, pleasurable, awe inducing, high inducing experience I could experience as a human.

I’m looking for a LTR that leads to marriage etc. Every man I’ve fallen in love with has ended up being very very vanilla.

So now that I’m single and looking again, I tried talking about kinky stuff earlier on in the dating process but then it’s all the men can focus on. I’m only talking about it to filter but they want to sext etc and since it’s before I’ve developed feelings, it’s a massive physical turn off and I lose all interest.

I joined Feeld but it’s hard to figure out who is truly kinky and seeking LTR vs kinky but casual vs just a horny dude wanting basic sex.

I genuinely don’t know what to do. I’m 43F and want my next relationship to be my forever partner but don’t know how to find him.

1. is Feeld the right place to find what I’m looking for?
2. If so, is there a specific way I should create my profile?
3. I paid for majestic so can see my initial likes and moved my profile to incognito because I started worrying my face is visible with my very kinky desires very obvious and it might be bad for my career. Bad strategy?

EDIT: I’m in Toronto

Hey guys that show their pics of themselves and partner. Looking for lifestyle couples to meet up with.

Can you just pump the brakes on responding to female messages by (bait & switch) expressing solo interest in my wife. Just have the ballsack to say your looking for both together & solo play. Your not being as sneaky as you think. And it makes you look like a douche responding back your GF, wife, whatever is stepping back. But you are interested in solo play. Just update your profile to be more transparent and not bait & switch. Sheesh......You really make Feeld a shit experience with these stunts.

Hey Feeld community! Just wondering if anyone has had much success finding connections more than just ONS or casual? Of course depending on the vibe I enjoy that too, but I’m ideally seeking something more long term and serious. Also just fun friendships too honestly. Just wanted to see if anyone has had luck with that

Feeld used to be a place for OPEN communication about kinks, vulnerabilities, sexual exploration and friendships. Now it’s having a huge influx of straight close-minded men, just looking to get their d*cks wet/easy access to holes/ cheating on partners and blocking the people after. It’s no longer a safe space and I’m going insane trying to weed out these bad apples. I’ve deleted my account 4 times in the past week because of terrible exchanges with straight men. Help.

I also feel extremely unsafe because a man took my address (intentionally didn’t give my apt number but he has the street address), pretending to be in an Uber on his way over to me, and a few minutes before “arriving”, blocked me on Feeld and text/WA. Completely insane behaviour so it makes me wonder what is going on with the app, it has no security features so people think they can do whatever??

Edit: I had met him out in public once before. We set a date to meet up again and he offered his place or mine and I preferred mine, which is why he had my address!

Am I on the wrong version of the app? Where are all the fun and spontaneous people down for hooking up?

I just see a bunch of married people looking for a boyfriend /girlfriend

Or take me on dates and let’s what happens vibes. Lame. Is there a better site for this?

Can iOS users see full messages in their notifications that are multiple sentences? Android cuts them off. I'm trying to see why it's common for people who are active to not even open messages.