u/PerspectiveBest7736

I tested positive for HSV-1 through a blood test, but I’ve never had a noticeable outbreak and don’t know whether it’s oral or genital.
I recently asked my doctor for daily suppressive medication because I’m more concerned about reducing the possibility of transmitting it to a new partner than treating outbreaks. She asked whether I had ever experienced an outbreak, and when I said no, she told me I didn’t need antivirals and recommended L-lysine instead.
My new partner has openly expressed concern and would feel more comfortable if I were taking medication. I would also feel terrible if I transmitted HSV-1 to him without taking every reasonable precaution.
Has anyone with asymptomatic HSV-1 been prescribed suppressive antivirals? Did you consult a sexual-health specialist, another primary-care provider, or a telehealth service? I understand that medication cannot eliminate transmission risk and that an HSV-1 blood test cannot identify the location, I’m simply trying to make an informed decision with my partner.

I haven’t disclosed my genital HSV-1 status yet. The guy is a friend I’ve known for about a year, and we recently realized that we have feelings for each other. We developed strong chemistry at a mutual friend’s wedding, and I really like him.
We’re currently away from each other, but we plan to meet when we’re back in the same place. I’m wondering whether I should disclose before we meet in person or wait until afterward. Part of me wants to tell him beforehand so he has enough time and space to process everything without feeling pressured or caught off guard.
My biggest fear is that because we share close friends, he might tell someone else about my status. I’m also scared that he’ll be extremely disappointed or reject me, especially because I’m already emotionally invested.
Has anyone been in a similar situation? When would be the best time to disclose, and how can I ask him to keep the information private? Any thoughts?