r/HerpesQuestions

Backstory: I got HSV2 during Covid from my girlfriend at the time who never told me she had it until it was too late.

Now there’s one of my coworkers I’m attracted to who goes out to bars with me a lot after our shifts. We flirt pretty much every time we go out and the last time we did we were super touchy, more than normal. We made plans on both of our days off to hang out together and even though we might not even have sex when we hang out I’m still stressing like crazy thinking about what I will even say if it gets to that point. I did have a girlfriend about a year and a half ago who knew I had HSV2 and didn’t care. We had plenty of sex and she never got infected which was great. But I have never had this conversation with a friend let alone a coworker. I’m terrified of the possible rejection or disgust stigma that people have when they hear “herpes”. I know I’m not alone but I just need advice and want to hear other people’s stories if they ever got into a situation like mine.

I had a possible exposure about 8 weeks ago, my first test was done less than 4 weeks in using igM (which I learned is not recommended).
I tested positive but don’t have my symptoms, was wondering how long after did you guys wait to get tested especially if you’re asymptomatic.

I’ve had herpes since 2017, and I rarely have any outbreaks. I’m currently having the worst outbreak I’ve ever had, and it came so unwarranted. It was right after my partner and I had sex, and I’m on my period, so I guess those are two things that can cause it, but it came on so fast I had absolutely no symptoms prior. My partner also has genital herpes. We’re wondering if he’s going to get an outbreak because it was the day after we had sex that it flared up really bad on me truly out of nowhere. I used to take suppressants daily and I haven’t for a while bc me and him both carry the virus and haven’t had outbreaks in years.

Has this ever happened to anyone? I honestly forget I have it bc I haven’t had an outbreak in forever but this is the worst one I think I have ever had. I started valcoyr and he’s gonna take some just in case

I found out My ex bf gave me HSV 2 on May 15th
Ofc I dealt with my emotions around it and I have no
Problem disclosing it. Sometimes I do feel a stigma around it or me. I hesitate with who I share that part of me with. Ofc I disclose any information before going to second base lol. I just wish I had more people to talk to that understands what Im diagnosed with instead of trying to educate everybody about what it is and what it is not.
I feel like I cant have my fairytale ending because ofc I have herpes. I’m just ranting but I would love to talk to people who understands other than my therapist.