u/PerspectiveFuzzy365

Someone tell me if this is fair/how this is fair cuz it’s really upsetting for me and I feel like it’s unfair as fuck.

My friend who is a Yumeshipper gets really mad whenever I say something bad about their f/os and I don’t even know half of their f/os but they know ALL of mine and never fail to be absolutely horrible and say disgusting things about them, it’s quite upsetting

I’ve noticed in a lot of community spaces the general rule is you date over 18, don’t sexualise under 18 characters and dating under 18 characters is only okay if you are also or have grown up with them.

My issue is I yumeshipped before coming into these communities and learning that general rule, HAVING had sexualised my 16/17 year old f/os.

After coming into these communities and learning that, I felt awful. But the thing is I didn’t know anything was wrong with it because here in the UK the age of consent is 16, so I consider my f/os who are 16/17 to be able to consent to that stuff.

I’m just wondering if it’s because I’m running into non British yumes or what but should my rules on Yumeshipping and ages follow what everyone else is saying or what my countries laws are? I’m so confused and I feel like an awful person rn

It’s exactly what it sounds like, I’m drawn to the idea of yumeshipping with someone from every media I consume recently, to the point I’ve caught myself seeking out an f/o amongst the cast.

I’ve had to promise my irl boyfriend that I won’t even mention or announce a Yumeship until I’ve finished the media (if I’m watching an anime and there’s more manga of that anime, the manga doesn’t count as I struggle to read manga at any form of fast pace so I’d never finish it lol, also a lot of it is ongoing so it doesn’t count) that way I can fully see the cast of the anime, I know my options and don’t just pile on like 7 f/os throughout watching the anime, as if I didn’t sit down and THINK about who I love and prefer and who i GENUINELY love then that’s what would happen. I don’t want as many yumes as I do but I feel so drawn to characters and feel like I need someone to attach to in that way from every single new anime I watch

I very rarely post about my yumes on my account, as the account I use for casual scrolling is more of a spam and I mostly post lip syncs. But I do have a few mutuals who are dedicated yumeship accounts, and for some reason every time I interact with them, because my account isn’t obviously or strictly for yumeshipping, I feel a need to almost be like “haha this is such a cute video! Canon ship btw (I’m a Yumeshipper also)” obviously I don’t do that but it feels like that’s what I need to do, like every few posts I’ll throw in some Yumeship mention or I’ll post an edit of an f/o on my story and be like “I love my fictional boyfriend”

It’s as if I need to prove myself to be a Yumeshipper to these other random Yumeshippers who don’t care.

I want so badly to make a dedicated yumeship account but I have a lot of different f/os and not enough content of any of them, let alone the energy to make the account a thing

Idk if this is topic I can talk about, and it’s not intended to insult anyone but I noticed a common theme with yumeshippers who have partners. Especially those who have male partners.

Now this isn’t directed at everyone, my boyfriend isn’t like this, and I spoke to him about this and he agrees with the stance I’ll take in this post.

I’ve noticed a common theme from reading comments and posts about people with irl partners that sometimes whilst their partner says they’re okay with the yumeship, they act incredibly passive aggressive, immature and dismissive about it?
Maybe I’m going crazy maybe it’s nothing but I just noticed it, of course if a partner isn’t comfortable with you yumeshipping you should respect that and stuff, but if they say they’re okay with it and then act like this, it just reads as insecure to me. You can’t say it’s okay and then invalidate your yumeshipping partner, ignore them when they talk about it, dismiss it or treat it like it’s a bad thing, if you’re uncomfortable with it just say and if you’re fine with it just don’t wanna hear about it, also just say.

I don’t know if I just got a bad side of the internet but this was just a pattern I noticed in at least half of the “I’m a Yumeshipper with a irl partner” posts or comments

I’m a multi fandom poly shipper, I have so many yumes! Yet I have almost nothing of my f/o(s) and almost nothing of my ship. Obviously I know it’s not necessary, but I get upset about that fact sometimes.
I’m too poor to commission work and buy merch, not popular enough to get gifted yumeship stuff, and too busy to make stuff for myself, so I’m stuck in a weird area of wanting to make stuff and wanting to have stuff but simply not being able to.

Can anyone else relate? Idk

People tend to think I’m non sharing because I believe the characters are mine and I don’t wanna hear of other people loving them, but that’s not the case. I’m non sharing 1. Because I sometimes get jealous to see how much merch and stuff people have of their yumes and so I just stop myself seeing it at all, and 2. Because I’ve been harassed by a double before and now I’m just scared of potential drama with a double so I just block everyone out of fear ;~;

Ive been using ryujinx to play tomodachi life living the dream, and due to issues with using my keyboard (mobility struggles) I have decided to use my Nintendo switch joycons, my main issue is that my shoulders, or bumpers, and my triggers won’t work, meaning I can’t access certain parts of the customisation, I can’t access the different categories in shops or in my inventory. It’s really holding back my gameplay as there’s food and stuff I bought that I can’t access at all, and I can’t use some of the customisation.

I’ve tried finding guides on how to re map it all, but I can’t seem to get it to work! I have also put ryujinx on steam if that helps anything.

If anyone could give me a very easy to understand breakdown on how I fix this that’d be really helpful because I’m struggling and it’s really frustrating

I used to think “bro who would ship themself with someone as FAMILY that’s so strange I don’t see the point, because shipping in fandom is mostly romantic.

Anyway now I have a yume brother, son, and father, and I get it… I really do get it.

This is mostly talking in the context of romantic yumeships

I’ve seen people who view their f/o and interact with the community and hobby in different ways.

So, do you view it as just a hobby? Or a real attraction

Do you use Yumeshipping as an extension of expressing your admiration for a character? Or do you genuinely feel actual romantic attraction like you would a real partner for them?

For me it’s been that I deeply adore the characters personality, really love the media, and the characters design, so I then use Yumeshipping in most situations as an extension of my love for the media, an extra way to show how much I love that one character

I bought one of those cheap posable wire dolls of one of my f/o, my sister tried running off with it because she thought it looked silly and was playing, I joking cried out “no! My husband!” And grabbed him back. My family doesn’t know I yumeship at all, but my sister has gotten my entire household unironically calling Oliver Aiku my husband

Doubles DNI, see pinned post for yume list

I’ve started dreaming about my f/o’s now I’m curious… what about YOU

Doubles dni, please see pinned post on account

So I have been with my irl partner for like 7 months, for the first few months i completely set aside my Yumeshipping, when i felt comfortable I FINALLY told him. He was absolutely fine with it! Now I can talk about my f/os, tell him about things from within the community and tell him the most recent thing I’ve wrote and he just listens happily! I do get a bit ashamed at times because I’ve had a lot of yumeshippers tell me it’s disrespectful to yumeship whilst in a relationship but he just says they’re not him and he’s fine with it so they can’t really say much.

Larry Johnson - sally face - romantic - non-sharing

Oliver Aiku - blue lock - romantic - non-sharing

Shuto Sendou - blue lock - romantic - non-sharing

Vivian Hugo - blue lock - romantic - non-sharing

Micheal Kaiser - blue lock - romantic - non-sharing

Bram Stoker - bungo stray dogs - romantic - non-sharing

Ryūnosuke Akutagawa - bungo stray dogs - romantic - non-sharing

Tetchō Suehiro - bungo stray dogs - romantic - non-sharing

Fyodor Dostoevsky - bungo stray dogs - romantic - non-sharing

Zanka Nijiku - Gachiakuta - romantic - non-sharing

Tamsy Caines - Gachiakuta - romantic - non-sharing

Gyutaro - demon slayer - romantic - non-sharing

Tamaki Amajiki - my hero academia - romantic - non-sharing

Beam - chainsaw man - romantic - non-sharing

Vanitas - case study of vanitas - romantic - non-sharing

Choso - jujutsu kaisen - romantic - non-sharing

Clemont - pokemon - romantic - non-sharing

Momo - stray - My father - selective sharing

Ranpo Edogawa - bungo stray dogs - my brother - selective sharing + don’t wanna see ANY sexual romantic yumes eww yuck that’s my brother

Rudo Surebrec - Gachiakuta - my son - selective sharing, don’t wanna see other familial yumes unless sibling, sometimes, don’t wanna see sexual romantic yumes

Froakie/frogadier/greninja- pokemon - yumepet - selective sharing (as long as it’s not MY Pokemon we are fine)

Rockruff - pokemon - yumepet - selective sharing (as long as it’s not MY Pokemon we are fine)

Leafeon - pokemon - yumepet - selective sharing (as long as it’s not MY Pokemon we are fine)

Popplio/brionne/primarina - pokemon - yumepet - selective sharing (as long as it’s not MY Pokemon we are fine)

Donald Duck - Disney - yumepet - non-sharing

Stitch - Lilo and stitch - yumepet - non-sharing

Heh I know it’s a lot that’s my bad! I just yumeship wherever I want with whoever I want no limits! Because free will! I hope I can meet other yumes from same fandoms! Or maybe my bother or son’s partner… but otherwise I hope you guys respect this and any doubles, whilst I feel no aggression towards you, for my own peace of mind and maybe also yours, kindly block me <3

Additionally, if you want to know more about my yumeships as they stand, I don’t know if it’ll be completed by the time you read this, but check my strawpage in my bio!