u/PettyPixxxie18

Title pretty much says it all. I think it’s highly inappropriate. Just like you should separate church and state, you should also separate church and medicine. YOUR RELIGION has no business in MY PAIN MANAGEMENT. Honestly, it makes sense as to why I’ve been so dismissed about my pain. It feels like they’re trying to tell me to “pray my pain away” and it’s disgusting. Honestly, it’s unethical IMO. I’m going to call and make a formal complaint to the office manager. Altho I doubt that will make a difference. Just wondering what can actually be done about this. It seems super unprofessional at the very least.

Dude. Seriously. How childish are we? I come home and EVERY SINGLE LIGHT IS TURNED OFF. My friend in the same town had all her lights turned off too. My friend said she came home to two people in her house turning off all her lights and kicked them out. Bro. What do you even get from that? What does it do for you? Does it feel good to be a jerk? Did you get some good laughs? It took me like 5 minutes to go turn them all back on. Can we please stop being jerks?? It’s just rude and disrespectful.

This might be the wrong sub to post this. But I dont know where else to go.

I’m of the opinion that simply saying “I wish I could help” when a friend or loved one tells you they are struggling is absolutely a cop out. Even if you don’t think you can help, you should at least ask “is there anything I can do to help or do you need any help?”

A friend of mine today (while I was complaining about how my partner simply said “I wish I could help” and didn’t offer to help or say anything else when I was having a really rough day) said that they say “I wish I could help” as an invitation for the person struggling to ask for help. And I was like. Bruh. That’s selfish. To expect the person, who already told you they are struggling, to then take on the emotional and mental labor of asking for help. If you truly wanted to help, you’d offer. ESPECIALLY when that loved one is disabled and/or neurodivergent.

If you saw someone drowning would you say “I wish I could help” and expect the person to then ask for help while their lungs fill with fluid? I would hope not. So why would you watch your friend figuratively drown and simply say “I wish I could help” and just move on, because they didn’t *ask* for help.

I feel like saying “I wish I could help” is just a filler thing to say to make people feel better about themselves, like some self righteous little saying. To make it seem like they’re empathetic on the surface, without them *actually* having to put effort in.

I personally always ask, even if I know for a fact it’s nothing, if there’s anything I can do to help. For once in my life, it would be nice to have someone show enough care and empathy to *actually ask me* if they can help, instead of saying they *wish they could* help and moving on.

Anyways. Sorry for the rant. Today was a bad day. It was the one year anniversary of the day my soul cat died. And not a single person asked if I needed anything or if they could help. They just said “I wish I could help” and moved on, like saying that fulfilled the requirement of helping. And I’m so tired of that being my experience in life. I’m so tired on no one caring for me as much as I care for them…

Edit: it’s become obvious that I have a lot of trauma from my family refusing to help me when I really needed help growing up. I would ask for help and they would deny me. Tell me to figure it out on my own. So now I’m too scared to ask for help due to fear of rejection and further trauma. I will bring this up with my therapist.