u/PhoenixxxFirestorm

Yes you read that right, my mother, aka my husbands mother in law, is trying to ruin my wedding...

My husband and I eloped last November. His grandfather was very sick and we were dead set on him signing the marriage license, so his grandparents snuck us up to the courthouse in November of last year, we had our little silent ceremony, and we celebrated together with dinner. It was everything I ever wanted, my husband still wanted to have our wedding. We lost his grandfather less than a month later, so it really set in stone for us how important our elopement really was. We saved reading our vows and our ceremony (handfasting) for our families to ensure the wedding was still important.

We live in Florida, my family lives in California, and none of them have met my husband face to face. Our initial plan was to get married on November 7th of this year, before we knew how sick his grandpa was and decided to sneak away and elope. I ended up breaking down and telling my parents after we lost his grandpa that we had eloped, and once the cat was out of the bag, everybody knew. They were supportive at first, they understood our need for his grandpa to be involved and even told me I made the right decision. I reassured them that there would still be a celebration.

Now, the wedding/anniversary celebration/post elopement party is 3 months away, and my mother has been making constant comments about it. Asking if she can dress like a witch, telling me that she feels like she missed out on "the most important day of her life" because we didn't tell her the days before we eloped so she could try to find a way to come (his mother wasn't there either, and was also upset, but at least she was honest about it from the beginning). I made it a point to make her a part of the dress process, even from 3000 miles away. The first dress we tried didn't fit, she ordered it literally 6 sizes too small. I didn't realize until I looked at the tag. I'm a plus sized bride, I wear a size 22 dress and even sent her my measurements. She bought me a size 16 and then told me that my "vegetarian diet isn't helping" and I " should try ozempic". She also told me she didn't know why I was buying a dress for a "fake wedding", even though ive been consistently telling her how important reading our vows and our handfasting ceremony is to us.

At this point I'm regretting inviting her, but unfortunately it's already been done AND she purchased the plane tickets for all 6 of my family members to come.. I know this doesn't mean I owe her anything, but it also means it's kind of too late to cancel anything.

Our celebration is already small.. only 30 guests total including ourselves. Meaning anything stupid she does will be seen by EVERYONE. I've already talked to my best friend, she's going to play security and ensure my mother doesn't humiliate me at my own wedding.

What would you do if the Monster-in-law came from your side of the family? I'm at a loss. I've already decided that if she tries anything at the wedding, I will be going full no-contact after... Any suggestions on avoiding the drama before the wedding?