INPTs Who Are Parents or Are Considering Becoming Parents
I recently saw a post asking why an INTP would choose to become a parent. Most of the comments were from people who weren’t interested in having children, and I completely understand that perspective.
I never had the natural “urge” to become a parent. If I’d been born a decade later (I’m an older millennial), when being child-free felt more like an acceptable choice, I may have chosen that path myself. But I did have children. I waited until my mid-thirties, and I’m glad I did. Life is long should have many chapters. Those chapters don’t have to include children, but they should involve growth and new experiences.
Parenthood has taught me more about myself than I expected. It has helped me better understand who I am and has given me perspectives on some of my most complicated relationships, especially with my own mother, but also with friends and coworkers. It didn’t change me as an INTP, but it deepened my understanding of both myself and other people.
Lastly, just my opinion: I think INTPs make great parents. We tend not to hover, encourage curiosity and exploration, have very few preconceived expectations, and value open, honest communication.
Our kids may not always be super polished or put together, but they know they can be themselves. I’d rather nurture their individuality than dull their enthusiasm. I’ve always told my kids, “I don’t care what you do in life, as long as it’s respectful, kind, and legal.”
XO,
Me.
PS I’m not suggesting anyone should have children but I’m asking for those who are able to consider it, but only if you feel you could help out our world by bringing up a human who isn’t a POS.
Edit…Little dyslexia I my INPT v. INTP. I’M NOT PERFECT.