AITA for telling a friend why we don’t invite her out anymore?
A few months ago a new girl started tagging along with my friend group (Mia 32F). She’s a nice enough person so we all didn’t have a problem with it at first. Then we decided to watch a movie together. And Mia talked through the entire thing. She kept a running commentary going through the whole movie. She would mention plot holes, trivia about the actors, just general nonsense. We were watching the movie on streaming at someone’s house so it was annoying but we all got over it.
Then we went to see the Odysee in IMAX. And she kept whispering to me the entire movie. Like a full on running commentary about every little difference there was between the poem and the movie, fun facts about Matt Damon, basically didn’t shut up the entire movie. I had been sitting next to her and I asked her to be quiet a few times but she didn’t seem to get the message.
A few weeks later a friend said he got tickets to see “Something Rotten” which is a musical. Someone else said “don’t invite Mia”. So we created a second group chat without Mia to coordinate that show. We went without Mia and had a good time.
The next time we were going to do a movie night at someone’s home, we again didn’t invite Mia. We invited her to a boating day we did so it wasn’t like we were excluding her from everything.
Last week the non- Mia group chat decided to go see Rock of Ages at the theater where I work and asked if I could get them a deal on tickets. Mia apparently found out about this get together and called me to ask why we hadn’t invited her.
I decided to be blunt and told her “because you won’t shut up when we’re watching stuff”. Mia seemed to get offended and apparently went to the rest of my friend group to get the truth. Some told her straight up why and others either left her on read or lied about the plans.
Now my friend group is divided. Some think it was right to tell Mia the truth, while others think that we should have lied to spare her feelings. Nobody wants to invite her to the show (which they are coming to tonight without Mia) though.
So AITA?