u/Plants_n_bees

Im desperately looking for advice.

I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years now and he is very vanilla. It's not something that i knew getting into the relationship since i knew his ex and she was very kinky and not afraid to say it. He also listens to metal and what not and idk it never even crossed my mind that he might be vanilla.

I've suppressed this part of myself for 5 years. I've asked maybe once or twice for things to be a bit more rough or to be spanked and he has followed through but it doesn't feel like it's enough. We moved into a new appartement and I have a lot of sensory issues and I just want to feel like my skin isn't crawling. Spanking and subspace are pretty much the only thing that help, at least for a while.

I admitted to him that it was more important to me than I thought and that I didn't know how to bring it to him. It honestly made things worse. He doesn't judge my kinks but just don't find them hot. Sex has always been more aimed towards his pleasure and it feels like even tho he said he'd "look into it" he won't and just hopes it goes away.

I love him so much and we have a pretty much perfect relationship outside of that but it feels like there's a part of me that's missing. I don't know what we can do to fix it. I desperately do not want to break up.

Hello,

I got pierced both nostrils about a month ago but only one of them has had a bump since then. It was pierced with a classic labret jewelry and i haven't touched it since. Because of the size of the bump, i have accidentally knocked my finger on it trying to adjust my glasses or what not.

My theory is that the bump is caused by my sleeping position (i do sleep on that side) however i thought maybe after 2 or 3 days the bump would become smaller, not at all. Also the nose doesn't touch the pillow when sleeping on the side i think ? I don't know what to do, it's never happened with my 15ish piercings before.

What can i do so it going away or it shrinks ? I'm pretty desperate cause it feels like it's huge

Edit : I called the piercing shop and I talked to a different piercer, she called it a keloid which immediately told me she didn't know what she was talking about since i'm not prone to keloids and it's 99,9% an irritation bump. I did mention that the piercing looks crooked (you guys were right) and she just said to come back during the week and apologized. I don't think they'll offer to repierce it or something but we'll see..

Kinky sub but vanilla boyfriend

Problem with only one of my new nostril piercing