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It's Sunday evening, I'm a wife and mom and I was just spanked 5 times on each butt cheek and once finished, I gave my husband a blow job. I was fully naked during this, while he remained clothed. It's been a ritual for us for the last 13 years, even when we find ourselves in a different place, we try to managed to continue to ritual of me getting my spanking and servicing him with a blow job. No one would assume I like to be spanked, I'm your typical mom/wife, nothing about me shouts "get naked and get ready for a spanking." but here I am, sore bum and telling reddit!

Hey girls

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I’m working on my feminine training and want to build better girly habits every day.

I need simple things I can practice to make my body and mind more feminine.

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What daily routines, etiquette, or little rules do you follow? Things like posture, voice, grooming, movement, affirmations, etc.

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Share your best tips please! Want to stay consistent and feel more girly all the time Thanks!

I find that Sundays are perfect for me to prep myself for the week: it’s the day for washing my curls, painting my nails and shaving my body.

That’s why I started this weekly post so we can discuss what we have done for self care this week (no matter the day you did it on). Started a nice workout, tried a face mask? Share it with us!

Hi I'm new to BDSM and being a sub me (35f) and my husband (35m) have been together 14 years, married 4 years, decided to embark on a sub/dom journey together after a lot of talking, discussion and research. I trust him fully we have taken it slowly with a lot of communication and finding our boundaries and hard limits, so far has been a wonderful experience to take together and has brought us much closer.

Now to my question I guess, I'm not sure why or if it is a normal reaction or sub drop so thought I would ask somewhere someone would possibly know.

After a dom/sub session I always want to cry and I mean ugly sobbing cry, (not because he has taken things to far or becos he hasn't listened he is very careful in how far he pushes always listens to me and notices my reactions etc).

I just don't understand why is this what I've read as sub drop or an emotional release etc is this normal?? .

Background information I have previously been SA'd (not by my husband) so giving up that power was only ever going to go to someone I fully trusted, I don't know if that is also something to do with it... Anyone able to possibly help me to understand this reaction would be much appreciated.

How did your week go? What were the high- and low lights of the week? Anything coming up for next week that you want to talk about? Share it with us!

It happened again and I am afraid that my truth about who I am socially completely fails to communicate who I am sexually. I work in STEM, I am super nerdy and love showing off. I like to present in a tough, semi-masculine way, or at least a strong feminine type, body hair here and there, sportsy outfits. I love sarcasm, friendly bickering, I can be brutally honest and I thrive when competing with others. I am quite aware that nothing about me screams "please tie me up, call me a whore and train me like your dog". But I have ALWAYS been extremely submissive, I got a weird tingle just by having my body moved around at the doctor's when I was younger. I am still waiting to get that itch properly scratched.

I have always figured that I will address this when I get to a more sexual stage with anyone I happen to meet, but I end up just. Wasting. So. Much. Time. It doesn't help that I like men who are nerdy, a little different (dare I say neurodivergent), emotional, and not afraid to engage with their feminine side.

When I do end up getting a crush and things progress, we're in a bed or on a couch, he just... cuddles up to me under my face, speaks in a baby voice, and my heart sinks instantly cause I realize I have collected yet ANOTHER submissive man who I now have to let go AGAIN and the whole thing just leaves a bad taste in my mouth. I am almost repelled by the thought of me doing femdom with a man, probably because I have actually done that before for months, caught in a misunderstanding, too afraid to say anything, and I feel ashamed of it to this day. The thought of me actually dominating a man makes me ill. It makes me feel like it's all about him and not female-centered at all. I feel lonely and undesirable if a potential partner doesn't want me in a dominating way.

Does it get any better? Or should I actually change something about myself/reconsider my type to actually find what I'm looking for? Are there any signs I could look out for that suggest a shy, nerdy man is actually a dominant?

I know this is more common in more alternative/poly/plays-dnd-type communities, but this is just not my type, unfortunately.

Connecting to the divine feminine !
How do y’all connect and stay feminine even when the situation isn’t perfect.
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I'm fairly new to kink and bdsm - I went to an impact play workshop, which was hosted by a very reputable and safe kink organization. The workshop was very small, just the host, an aspiring apprentice Dom and me (sub). The two other subs weren't able to make it, so I was lucky enough to get something closer to a full impact session with the host using me to teach the apprentice - I'm a "very trainable good toy", it turns out 🥰. The session was great - after, I was given contact information and we set up a follow up call.

I didn't drop and was given good aftercare, they made sure I got home safe. The Dom invited me to set up a follow up zoom call if wanted, which is coming up.

What can I expect from the follow up call? How do these things go? I'm planning on asking if that host is the regular host for the impact workshops, recommendations for other good kink organizations and dungeons, how to play safely as a solo with many kink contacts I can let know of where I am, with who, etc.

Secretly hoping that this host has an opening for a sub to train, so also prepping questions for that just in case - only if they offer! I would not ask, especially as we've only played once...but they told me I was so trainable and it's looping through my mind 🫣

Hi ladies! I would love to hear what things you do that make you feel more feminine and/or submissive? For example, I always feel that way when I’ve put effort into my appearance (makeup/nails/etc) and am cooking for my husband while he tells me about his day. Sfw or nsfw answers are fine!

Do you keep secrets from your husbands?

I had lunch today with a relative. When we met i complemented her dress and she replied thanking me and telling me it was a designer dress she got on sale and shared the price. She finished off saying something along the lines of “but don’t tell (her husband), he’d pass out if he knew I’d spent that much”.

At first i thought she was joking, but she actually followed up at the end of the conversation, concerned i would mention it to my Husband, who might then mention it to hers. Girls, i felt such discomfort! If it was that much of a concern she should have kept it to herself. Keeping secrets is not a part of my relationship.

As the Head of our household, my Husband has total oversight. If He’s leading the marriage, He needs a clear understanding of everything that’s going on that could impact it.

He knows my phone password, our devices are linked with the same family account, so He could theoretically have access to all my phone logs and messages. Our bank accounts are shared. All our passwords are saved across all our devices. This is just a natural result of trust and, convenience and our lives blending after years of being together. The instinct to hide is not there, because the vision is always “us” not me. I even give Him my journal every Sunday so He can read my entries for the week and get a sense of where my head is at and help me with goals/accountability, emotions, etc. He expects me to be transparent about my wants/needs/challenges/problems. It’s not about control, it’s about transparency and having a shared journey.

So some of you ladies might disagree with this, but of course i did tell my Husband when He asked me how my visit went. He teasingly joked that she better not be giving me any ideas. He also thought it was strange that she thought He’d tattle on her. My Husband isn’t one for getting into other people’s domestic affairs.

It got us thinking of whether there was anything that we would keep from each other. Like even just small stuff that might seem inconsequential and i really couldn’t think of anything. I just don’t feel the need for privacy or secrets from my own Husband. The only thing i could think of was gifts, like sometimes one of us will surprise the other with something nice. And i guess also, while my Husband has full access to my body, we both do prefer for me to maintain a degree of modesty. So not a secret, but I do tend to keep the goods hidden, so to speak, so that there’s always that desire and pleasure for Him to unwrap them. Also maintaining a level of modesty can make a reveal feel all the more vulnerable, which for me helps foster a healthy sense of humility and intimacy. My Husband did also bring up that He will sometimes keep His decisions about any rule breaking to Himself until He’s ready to enforce them for heightened impact. That did surprise me and i don’t love it, but I understand and agree with its purpose.

I’m curious for others what degree of openness they prefer with your better half? Do you think there is any healthy or appropriate level of secrecy ?

Sir has two other subs, one of whom is a slave like I am. We've all been working towards a point where we can all do this together, if that makes sense; instead of Sir having three separate relationships, we want to all submit to him together. So the three of us have been getting to know each other, and a few days ago us two slaves had a bit of a threesome with Sir. There were some moments of jealousy and insecurity in that scene, but nothing I'd say unhealthy or unexpected.

But last night, Sir had me watch while he and his service sub had sex. From what I understand, it's pretty rare for the two of them to have sex. Normally she just does chores for him and he kind of ridiculous her work and slaps her around a bit to satisfy her degradation and humiliation kinks. But every once and a while they have sex, like last night.

Sir had me watch from my cage, where I'm currently spending the night while they sleep in the bed. And I just feel really yucky and angry. He was so sweet to her, which is just not how I imagined their relationship. And while they were having sex she kept smiling at me and I'm not sure what that was about. When they were done Sir did check in with me and I told him I was okay, but I'm realizing I'm not.

And I just feel awful because I'm going to ruin everything 😭 We've all been working hard to make this work and I don't want to be the one to create a problem.

This weekly post is specifically to share our thoughts on homemaking! A topic many of us want to dedicate a big part of our time to. We’re interpreting the concept of homemaking as cleaning, cooking, decorating and hosting.

Do you have tips, tricks, have you tried something new? Share your fails and your victories. And ask any questions even if they seem simple, we’re all at a different experience level and we’re here to help and not judge!

Im desperately looking for advice.

I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years now and he is very vanilla. It's not something that i knew getting into the relationship since i knew his ex and she was very kinky and not afraid to say it. He also listens to metal and what not and idk it never even crossed my mind that he might be vanilla.

I've suppressed this part of myself for 5 years. I've asked maybe once or twice for things to be a bit more rough or to be spanked and he has followed through but it doesn't feel like it's enough. We moved into a new appartement and I have a lot of sensory issues and I just want to feel like my skin isn't crawling. Spanking and subspace are pretty much the only thing that help, at least for a while.

I admitted to him that it was more important to me than I thought and that I didn't know how to bring it to him. It honestly made things worse. He doesn't judge my kinks but just don't find them hot. Sex has always been more aimed towards his pleasure and it feels like even tho he said he'd "look into it" he won't and just hopes it goes away.

I love him so much and we have a pretty much perfect relationship outside of that but it feels like there's a part of me that's missing. I don't know what we can do to fix it. I desperately do not want to break up.

i know here people mostly talk about there experience in relationships, but i felt like this was also a sort of experience.

so basically, me and my girls oftenly organise girl's nights near the beach or somewhere else.

one of our friend has her own home near the beach. so this time we organised there.

so in our nights there is rule everytime one girl has to get naked and have to get some punishments.

others are in bikini with full ac on in a room.

today was my turn.

i was made to be naked, lied on the bed, spanked hard by each girl ( i think 20-25 each), then squeezed my boobs, put some chili oil in my vag. and then was made to dance naked infront of them while they throw some money, then was made to run in entire house while they spank me.

then we decided to go to outside at the beach, till now they gave me back my bikini, but when i went under the water they made me naked again, and gave my clothes to one of the boy gang across the sea, the boys conditioned they would only give back the clothes if they could spank me too, so they spanked me, but then they threw my clothes somewhere ( or might have kept it somewhere), and made me run naked to the home. ( mind you still spanking ), when we reached home we had a couple of hrs of fun of dance , corner time etc etc....soon we slept after a bath, again i was naked and ac in full. then when i woke up they treated me like a queen and got me gifts and all.

lowkey enjoyed the night ;).

Sorry, English is my third language, Reddit is international with people from different countries and cultures.

Long term married 14 years (together 16 years), I have a question to ask, because I was still a virgin when married my husband, he taught me everything about sex.

I think my husband has a Dominant kink or a Dominant fetish.

So in bed (and I'm married to him 14 years), he very dominant, he LITERALLY does 100% of the work in bed. Basically he makes me the Pillow Princess.
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I'm not complaining, because everytime sex with him is I got multiple vaginal orgasms I throbbed over and over to the point I not know where I'm at anymore.
The vaginal orgasms get so intense that I have to beg him to stop because I can't take it anymore.

But he very gentle in bed, and very traditional and Vanilla, nothing like in porn you see or BDSM. No blowjobs, no anal, no choking, no tied up, no chains, no spanking, no sex dungeons, no threesome, no sex toys, no anything porn sex acts, etc..

OK, before you tell me that if I have not try those stuff, then how do I know I not like it?
No need, I don't need to try those rough sex stuff because he is VERY big (he off the charts big). I literally will end up in the hospital if I do those rough sex with a 9 inches penis. Yes. I have to mention his size to get my point across, that is not do-able for me.

Anyhoo, he actually very blunt, he said he not wants my mouth, he wants my vagina. He also said it flat out, his exact words, "he the one with the penis so let him do the f-ucking". It like that just how he ride his high, and remain erection from being dominant and literally does 100% of the work in bed.

He very loving and caring in bed, he not even pull my hair, if my long hair get in the way, he just gently slide my hair to the side and suck on my neck and shoulders and mouth.
He kisses alot during sex, like kiss and thrust at the same time. I don't feel that he fu-ck me, I feel that he 'make love' to me (and I'm not even a fan of that word, it cheesy, lol).

Here the thing, he likes sex out of his desire for me. He will stare and stare at me, and pin me down the bed, one hand pin my wrist down, one hand pin my shoulder down. BUT
But then he process on have Vanilla missionary position PinV sex with me, hell, he even asked me "Does it hurt?" if he thrust a bit harder than normal,
yah. he asked me "Does it hurts?" when all he does is trust and kiss at the same time, lol.

Does this sound like he has a dominant kink? Dominant fetish? Or just a normal man who likes to be dominant in bed?

I asked him alot of times, if he has kinks. He answered the same every time, he has no kinks. He said he is just a normal man that wants to makes love to his wife.

And I have asked him many times, that I love him and I want to please him too, so if anything he wants me to improve in sex, or wants me to do then tell me. He said he is very happy with our sex life, and he said I'm silly, and he said he just wants to make love to me.

And I'm also very happy in sex with him, without him I wouldn't know what multiple vaginal orgasms is, so thank you to him. He does go down on me before penetration, but how do I say it, I prefer his penis more.

So does he has a Dominant kink? If so the wife me would like to fulfill his kink. He is indeed a doting husband, and he very accommodating to me, in bed and outside of bed.

One of the things I do to show my appreciation to my husband is to give him my body to grope and rub aggressively when he’s had a long day. Kind of like an erotic stress ball I suppose 😅

I’ll take him into our bathroom for a few minutes, sit on his lap and take off my bra and let him pull and squeeze and give all sorts of attention to my nipples. I notice after this he’s usually more relaxed and in a better mood, and I can finish dinner and he is in a way better mood with our sons.

I will admit there are so many days I resent doing it but I think of it as my offering of submission to him, I want him to use my body as a way to heal and rejuvenate himself.

Does anyone else have a ritual like this or am I crazy!?

I’m in a LDR and I’m flying to see him in September and I really want to bring something so he can collar me. He really loves the idea of owning me but isn’t like super into bdsm so looking for a subtle way he can physically feel like he has ownership over my even when we are so far apart.

I’m looking for a bracelet that lots that isn’t uncomfortable. I’ve been looking on Etsy and google this morning but nothing really standing out to me.

Does anyone have any brand recommendations?

Thanks!