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Felt like adding a little midweek chatting to our post schedule! Let’s just talk about whatever is on our minds today ❤️

Does anybody else’s Dom pull the best out of them?! I’m naturally cute lol it’s just how I am and I giggle and blush and all the things… however I’ve always been on the more masculine with colors and attitude. But now!? I swear it’s on overdrive!! Give me all the extra girly, the colors, the outfits… i want to wear them and show off for him and just fully embrace this ultra feminine that I’ve fought for a long time! Like yea, I can be cutesy, but I’ve never embraced it like this. I swear he is dragging it of me… what comes next!? All the sparkles!?
All the Pink sparkles 🥰 ahhh!!!

You may remember last week I posted about enjoying punishments too much, and in the comments some suggested that perhaps my husband isn’t harsh enough or hasn’t found the right correction. I discussed it with him as you girls suggested, and he was interested to hear my thoughts. I told him that I like spankings and they may need to be harsher to be a really effective deterrent. Maintenance this week was harder, but still tolerable fortunately.

Forward to last night and the aftermath of me breaking four rules in 24 hours. My shoes were not put away Sunday night (I’m terrible at it), I overslept Monday so never made him his customary coffee before work, I cursed when he got home as I knew I was having a bad day and i forgot to text him as a courtesy that I was leaving the house earlier that day too.

So he gets home Monday night and after a brief exchange and embrace he heads upstairs. He comes straight down and tells me everything is ready for what I knew would be coming, and that I should ‘do what I can myself before he joins me later’. I go upstairs and find on our bed two pairs of never before used handcuffs, a blindfold, paddle and hairbrush.

What is he expecting me to do with them? What is he planning? I stare at it for a good 1-2 minutes deliberating what to do, until I decide I’d better hurry before he comes up the stairs. I handcuff both feet to the bottom frame of the bed and put the blindfold on, lying face down to enable the spanking.

What must have been 15-20 minutes later I hear him come up the stairs and into the room. ‘I considered what you told me the other day, and as such we won’t be needing this paddle tonight’. I hear it placed now on the other side of the room. ‘Thank you for getting ready, I appreciate that’ he says whilst locking my wrists with the cuffs at the other end of the bed. I start frantically thinking I’ve never had it with the hairbrush before, I wonder if it hurts more?

That’s when I felt his icy cold hand caress my midriff. Up my back and then onto playing with my hair. It was so ticklish!! Then I hear him walk down to the other end of the bed and he starts aggressively tickling my left foot with his fingers. It was torture. Like actual torture. As I thrust my foot out of the way he grabbed it and held it against the bed frame while he tickled. Then he did the same to the other foot. I was BEGging him to stop. And he did. He came over to me and asked if I regretted my conversation with him and all my infractions that day. I assured him I did. He then lovingly brushed my hair with the hairbrush.

Then he moved back to the end of the bed and used that same brush to stimulate every nerve in my feet. Up and down, up and down and quite aggressively. If spanking was fun for me, this really wasn’t. He told me after that he went for ten minutes with the brush but it really felt like 30 to me. I was sobbing into my blindfold by the end. He made me do corner time holding the brush still in my blindfold and ankle cuffs afterwards.

I came close to using my safe word through the ordeal but I resisted. He would only have continued it later after a break and I wanted to get it over with. I never want to experience it again, which I guess is how some of y’all feel about harsh spankings. I do of course say this tongue in cheek, but thanks sisters for encouraging me to chat with him …! 😕

I was at the grocery store with my kids today and while were walking in the parking lot, we walked past a car that was backing up. He stopped, so I ushered my kids by and we went to grab a cart. The guy in the car shouted "heifer" at me...in front of my kids, mind you...because I somehow bruised his fragile ego by I guess not letting him back up first? Idk.

A couple hours later, Daddy texted me asking how my morning went. So I casually mentioned the guy in the car throughout our conversation. He immediately gets pissed, tells me that I've worked endlessly for years to get to where I am and he hates that some idiot can be so mean to me. Side note - I've been actively losing weight this year and I'm just shy of 20 lbs lost so far. This is after years of pushing through mental health issues and healing from a ton of trauma, so for me to get this far in weight loss is a huge deal for me.

Well, apparently, Daddy was so upset that I was insulted today he came home an hour early, got me set up in my bath, complete with chocolate treats, candles, music, and he even gave me my friggin' weed pen! (I only smoke maybe once a month, but he brought it up for me anyway lol)

And now I'm in my bath eating chocolate and gushing over Daddy coming home to spoil me after a man tried to hurt my feelings today 🫠 And he also took over dinner duty tonight, so now I get to be a spoiled Kitten and float until my bowl of homemade ramen is ready 🙃 🥰

I get home from work about 15 minutes before my husband most days. This afternoon, I got a text from him that said to use my 15 minutes to get a snack, drink some water, and choose the brush, the paddle, or his belt and go wait downstairs for him to get home. Talk about your stomach dropping 😵‍💫🙈 I don’t even get off work for another 2 hours and the anticipation is killing me.
Well… wish me luck friends! 🤪

Hi everyone,
I’m 27f soon to be 28f and I am recently single again and wanted to explore my kinks but I’m not sure how to start, I was wondering if anyone has any advice or experience in finding your dom?

I feel like all my ex boyfriends would say they were into dom/sub relationships but really just liked rough sex and made me feel a bit like a sex doll rather than a participant which then killed my sex drive since I didn’t always want it rough and wanted to be held afterwards.

I am not shy in what I want or my kinks and always tell my partners what I like/dislike but like I said it doesn’t feel like I’ve been having the dom/sub relationship I’ve always wanted!

I want to find someone who will be my dom, practice aftercare, treat me like a princess, try new experiences with me and someone who will be there for me!
I just feel a little lost in how to actually find a good dominant partner :/

Our sermon at Church today was about the virtues of following an elder without argument, with acceptance and humility. Was the meaning a religious figure or just an older man who has wisdom and looks for what's best for me? 18F in S Nevada, S Utah

BTW, by "elder" I guess they mean way over 30 and not anything hookup or relationship based, more of a guide I listen to to be a good Christian girl. Dunno how to make it more clear.

i want to find someone who i can serve but yet is still kind and understanding. it’s easy to find a guy that wants to dominate me but i want to know the red flags of someone who’s a dom before giving myself to him. any advice?

I find that Sundays are perfect for me to prep myself for the week: it’s the day for washing my curls, painting my nails and shaving my body.

That’s why I started this weekly post so we can discuss what we have done for self care this week (no matter the day you did it on). Started a nice workout, tried a face mask? Share it with us!

Now, my husband was the first guy I was ever with and our relationship has evolved over the years. We are both comfortable with each other and happy with our sex life, I've realized over the year that there can be three types of sex with my husband. "Romantic" sex, you are both into it, teasing, the fun, it's that great sex you think about the next day. Then the "fucking" sex, you know, sneaking away and just going at it quickly, there isn't much time and you both want the quickie for fun. Then last is the "used" sex, this is where as a wife, I let him use my body. I'm neither in the mood or want sex, but I know my husband does. This can be early morning or right after I shower. There is no foreplay or orgasm for me, this is for him, to use my body to have his orgasm. This might not be for everyone, but it's the belief for me and to be his "good girl" as well.

This is just a friendly reminder that people can lie very easily on the internet. A few months back, someone DMd me from this subreddit that purported to be a woman. They sent me a selfie and I reverse image searched it and found it originally posted on a weird revenge p*rn website. It was a completely clothed photo and I didn't see any red flags prior to that.

I'm a lot older than most of y'all and have noticed some potentially concerning requests for DMs from "women" here, so I felt called to post this. Mods, I understand if you remove this, but please know that my motives are sincerely protective.

Have a good weekend, good girls! Stay safe 💗

How do you square the circle when your husband make the same mistakes as you do? I’m not talking about minor things, for which it is agreed the wife is operating under a stricter system or set of rules. I’m talking about big stuff which is obviously bad whoever does it. I’ve read examples of wives receiving long punishments for being careless and having their purse stolen, or for having a prang in their car or leaving the house unlocked overnight. What if any of those things happen to the husband in exactly the same circumstances, or were his duty to look after?
It is true that discipline can restore the balance in our relationships and draw a line under matters. But when our husbands make the errors how do we square the circle that they committed exactly the same dangerous transgression as we did but instead of a painful beating they got nothing but loving support. And I know we get aftercare and support too from our dear husbands - but we still get the punishment. Doesn’t ever create resentment? How do you overcome this? SHOULD you overcome it or should the husband recognise it’s a valid point?

Hello everyone,

I'm a sub and I have been in a long distance relationship with my partner for around 2 years. Although I do not have a problem with ldr it is sometimes challenging for me to "serve" him. He is been fairly busy recently so has been giving me less instructions and more tasks like"degrade yourself" or "expose" or "entertain me". As much as I enjoy those things I have a very hard time coming up with new ideas to follow such tasks. Another problem I have is that I would usually only find a task purposeful if he is ordering me to do it and otherwise it feels more meaningless. However, I want to be able to please him without him asking for it, as I know that's something he wants. I have talked to him about it but when he tries to give me more exact instructions I find them quite repetitive. I was hoping to get more ideas into what I could do that provides some sort of service or pleasure to him considering that I can't see him in person.

How did your week go? What were the high- and low lights of the week? Anything coming up for next week that you want to talk about? Share it with us!

Soo I saw my doms penis today. Im worried about giving him head. I have never done that before. He assures me that all he cares about is that im enthusiastic about it. I just worry. We have had sex some and its enjoyable but penetration isn't my thing. I guess im just posting for thoughts?

I feel like I’m trapped in an endless cycle of self sabotage. I have so much weight to lose, I’m so alone I feel like accountability would help. Anyone have any tips?

I try to be a good girl for my husband but when it gets to the weekend I think I make mistakes and get snappy because I like the punishment that comes after. I think I yearn for it a little. I know I could stop myself but the urge for the spanking or whatever he deems necessary gets me so excited. Is this so wrong? How should I manage this? I think I do as I am told the rest of the week but getting his complete attention during a punishment is so irresistible I always seem to repeat the same cycle.

I had a horrible long-distance experience with someone who called himself a “Dom.” Looking back, I’m not even sure he understood what being a Dom meant. What I do know is that the experience hurt me deeply. It messed with my head, my trust, and honestly my understanding of what I even wanted from a D/s relationship. Eventually, I ended it.
But instead of walking away from D/s altogether, I decided to do something different.
I researched.
I started learning about healthy D/s dynamics. I followed people who actually teach about dominance, submission, communication, boundaries, responsibility, and what it means to care for the person who submits to you.
And then I put myself out there again.
I posted on Reddit looking for my Dom.
And let me tell you something…
The good ones exist. The real ones exist.
He is sweet. He is attentive. He is caring.
He knows when to step into his authority and when to soften. He knows that being my Dom isn’t about being hard all the time. He pays attention to me—my emotions, my needs, my personality, my fears, my strengths.
And somehow, the thing that has impacted me the most is that I don’t feel like I have to become less of myself to submit to him.
He treasures more of me.
That distinction means everything.
Being a sub has been a desire of mine for a very long time, but I’m realizing more and more that submission isn’t simply a kink for me. It’s a dynamic, a responsibility, a way of relating, and something that deserves to be treated with intention and respect.
A good Dom doesn’t just want obedience.
He wants to know the woman who is choosing to give it.
He doesn’t just want control.
He understands the trust behind being given control.
And he doesn’t just see the submissive.
He sees the whole person.
After what I experienced before, I didn’t realize how badly I needed to experience the difference.
But when I say this relationship has made life better, I mean better. Best.
I’m happier. I’m more at peace. I’m excited. I’m learning. And for the first time in a while, I’m not wondering whether submitting means losing pieces of myself.
I’m discovering that, with the right person, submission can actually feel like being seen more completely.
So to the subs who have been hurt by someone who called himself a Dom:
Don’t let one bad experience convince you that healthy D/s doesn’t exist.
Do your research. Learn what good dominance actually looks like. Know your boundaries. Know your worth.
Because the good ones really are out there.
And apparently, sometimes you find them on Reddit. ❤️

im young, and free but im struggling EXTREMELY in the dating world, im freshly 19 my last relationship was when i was 16/17 and it was lowkey domestic and i havent been in one since. to make it all the much better im widening my interests to men. (for context i’ve been a lesbian for as long as i’ve been alive well until like January) point is, i’ve always had the same kinks and whatnot but i’ve really been interested in diving deeper into them but (tmi warning now) since im into sub/dom stuff and things like that it kinda requires conversation and communication and whatnot. and thats TERRIFYING. i already have to learn how to talk to boys now i have to find one and TELL THEM WHAT IM INTO????? how do yall get over this fear? how do i even flirt?? how do i even find a proper contestant? as much as i’ve experienced non purposeful rejection therapy in my life this is a whole new world and a girl just wants to get her rocks off😓 is that crazy? now granted i have had sex with men and its nothing serious, the thought of relationships has been terrifying for the last 2/3 years. but i’m pretty sure i’ve healed and i want something new and fun and safe yunno? how do i go abiut finding what im looking for? how much do i have to explain? is there a place to just find what im into? is there like a rulebook for this? i havent like AT ALL gotten what i’ve wanted, the two guys i’ve been with were lowkey vanilla and one was funny but he didnt stick around for long which is fine, but how do i make one stay per se? how does one go about this. please help any literally ANY advice would help. i’ll be checking my notifications.

also sorry for the bad punctuation if i pre read this i might not post this and i have literally zero friends and no one to talk to about this. so im just gonna post it and throw my phone. hope you understand! ok luv u bye