u/Pleasant_Papaya_1318

Hi everyone! I’m hoping to get some REAL insight into dating as a single parent from people who have done it.

I’ve been single for coming on 3 years. I have 4 children aged between 2-11. We have 50/50 custody week on week off. I haven’t dated anyone or introduced anybody to my children in this time as I was working on myself and focussing on my kids. For the past 2 months I have been seeing someone. He is divorced, no children due to male infertility, owns his home, works full time in a successful high up corporate role, has a niece and nephew whom he adores. Our relationship has flourished beautifully. At first he was quite worried about 4 children as he hasn’t got any but he has openly said he has come around to the idea and is willing to be a step parent.

What I’d like to know is when is the “right time” for him to meet my children? 2 are above the age of 8, 2 are below the age of 5. They have a step mum and she’s been around since 6 weeks post break up. They understand the dynamics of step parents. I’m absolutely NOT planning on doing this anytime soon so please don’t stress! I just would love some guidance as to what would be an ideal time. My worries are:
What if the kids don’t like him?
What if he doesn’t like the kids?
What if it’s too much for him? Or the kids?

Thank you for reading and I look forward to hearing your suggestions and experiences 🩷

Rant/vent

A little bit of context before I get into it. Split Oct 24’ after 10 years together 4 kids, he was living with his current partner 6 weeks after we split. She despises my existence and doesn’t allow him to speak with me. I had a MAJOR glow up. Lost 100lbs, more tattoos, leaned into my alternative baddie side hard.

Today was an out of schedule handover day (we do 50/50) due to a very sick child. I don’t really ever see BD or speak to him. Everything “must” be through SM or the world will end. SM was sick today so couldn’t facilitate this unscheduled return of 3/4 kids so BD did it.

Tell me why BD said to me “wow you’re looking so good” whilst checking me out from head to toe!?. He’s engaged, he ch3@ted on me multiple times, moved in with another woman while telling me he still loved me then went MIA for 6 months, popped back up for 5 days and disappeared again for 8 months. The audacity is astounding and I threw up in my mouth a little.

Anyway, now I’m a curvy alt baddie babe that loves being a single mom and can pull any man I want 😂