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hi guys. normally I am too scared of the internet to ask for advice, but I really need to talk and seek some type of guidance from level headed ppl. i probably will delete too.
so I (f) am in a ldr with my boyfriend and it’s going on 6 years.
im 26 and i live at home w my mom. I have 2 degrees and a license in my state and my bf has a great job in his state. i have a toxic rls with my mom, and being at home causes me great stress and anxiety. so much anxiety that it comes with awful crying spells and panic attacks and has progressed into ocd (diagnosed). it caused me to go into a little bit of debt and im working to pay it off. my bf and i are in the same country just different states (USA) and I want to move to his state, but the thing that was holding me back was my debt and just making sure I have a savings built up.

ive known him my entire life and I grew up with his family, so his family knows my family and knows the extent of my toxic family. his parents absolutely love and support us and can clearly see that their son (my bf) has full intentions on marrying me (we have also spoke about it). the only thing that’s holding him back really is the distance because he wants to see how living together goes first (I agree with him). his mom and dad offered to let me move in and live with them, all moving expenses paid. they even said they would get my car shipped out there and help me pack. they said if I live there, my only responsibility would be to pay off my debt and save my money so that my boyfriend and I can save up for a house. this all sounds so good and generous but I’m lowkey terrified of moving states lol. the job in that state comes with a pretty good raise and given that I won’t be paying rent, I’ll be able to save up so much more money than where I am.

my family is pretty old fashioned and believes that I should be engaged before making a move, but I completely disagree because I really don’t think a ring or proposal will change compatibility and doesn’t create stability or encourage commitment. I really do want to move and close the gap because lord knows I love my man bad and miss him so much. Im just scared because what if things change and we end up not being compatible? my man tells me there’s nothing to be afraid of and that he loves me and wants to grow together and build a future, but im just terrified lol.

any advice ? i want to tell my parents but im already knowing the lecture of not being married is coming. I just don’t want to miss out and regret this out of fear. but also be level headed about it.

Hi guyysss! I got my first ever charm bracelet I’m so happy!!
But I have a question for the ogs. Whenever you got your first bracelet, did you put your charms on after you got a few or did you add them one by one ?

Mine is gold so it’ll take me a WHILE to add charms especially with the price increase. So I was thinking should I collect them and then put them on the bracelet eventually all together or add them one by one ? Right now I only have a butterfly charm.

Are there unspoken rules ? Or does it not really matter !!

Thank you guys :)

Sorry guys, I heard via tik tok that the prices are being increased AGAIN?? I got a gold charm bracelet for my birthday and I’m excited to start collecting charms. I saw they did a price increase in February now they are planning on doing the increase again in July???! I’m so saddd. The charms I want are already so expensive so I have to add charms so slowly lol. I HATEEE being a gold girl sometimes. Sorry I just wanted to complain. 😭 I think this is ridiculously. 2 price increase this year is so off putting.