u/PollutionAnxious9386

So my daughter (15) came out to us a couple of months ago. She's picked a name, got a whole new sense of style and is so, so happy and confident. The other day she took a picture with me and she's refused to be in pictures for like 5 years. (Like she nearly didn't go to her dad's wedding cos there was a photographer). I'm so happy for her.

But I'm also just like full of anxiety. I live in the UK where gender affirming care, especially for kids, is nearly impossible to get on the NHS. We can't afford to go private. Luckily, puberty was late for her, but it is happening and I don't know how that will affect her. Currently she has a few friends who know and accept her (she's never been overly social and actually has more friends now than ever) but is probably going to college soon with a whole load of new people and I worry how they'll react to her.

Her dad's side of the family are all at least a little transphobic. She's not out to them atm but will they love her still?

I'm just so worried all the time for her future. I see all the statistics of young trans victims of hate crime or suicide and I want to cry for my baby girl.

I just wanna make sure I'm doing everything right for her so if anyone has any advice or anything at all I'd be so grateful.

Hi all,

I'm hoping for some advice. A few weeks ago my 15 year old let me know that she's a girl and we've been supporting her with that at home. She seems very happy but currently isn't fully out, obvs no big deal.

However, she will be due to start college soon and she can't decide whether to start as herself or not. After speaking to her she's said she's worried she'll go to college out as a woman and then realise she's wrong and have to explain that to everyone.

As someone who's never experienced any level of gender dysphoria I truly don't know what's best. She has said she feels good as herself and bad when she's a presenting as a boy but the feelings aren't overwhelming.

We don't have any trans friends to talk to so I thought I'd ask here for any support or advice, anything you wish your parents had done or hadn't done. I just want her happy and thriving so really any advice would be appreciated. Thank you 💕