r/cisparenttranskid

Hi all!

I've got two trans kids, both (fairly recently) out of high school. They both struggle with anxiety, ADHD and depression. I'm getting more and more worried about them both. They've been self-isolating since graduation, which has led to loneliness, bad feelings and compounding self-isolation.

I want to help each find a community. I feel like a community will help them not only with loneliness, but also the nitty-gritty stuff about being their true selves (picking cool clothes, voice training, doing makeup, etc). I have no idea where to start, though.

I'd also REALLY like to get each a trustworthy mentor of some kind. That feels even more terrifying, though. I'd hate to make things worse by pairing them up with someone who only wants to take advantage of them.

Does anyone have pointers for me? We're in the Portland, OR metro area, if that helps.

Thanks and love to all.

Hi, 18-year-old, very possibly and looking more like I am MTF.

I am hoping someone here has advice for getting my parents to accept me and give me hope for the future.

I expressed my feelings and thoughts about being trans a little more than a year ago, and as time has gone on, things have not improved. My parents 1000% love me and want me to be happy, but they're having a very difficult time with this, and I don't know if they're choosing not to face this and burying their heads in the sand or can't accept this and it's eating them up inside.

We don't talk about it much, maybe 4-5 times since I first told them, and it always ends with either my mom or me, or both of us, in tears. She can't seem to wrap her head around the idea that I could be trans, and to her credit, it is a bit difficult for me to articulate how I'm feeling, and I myself still question if I'm trans (I have many a post about it if you wish to read more; I honestly encourage it so you can hopefully get a full scope; these posts should hopefully be the most useful: Post 1, Post 2)

My mom is also very distraught, and from what I've read on here, it seems to fit the description of her grieving, which makes me feel really, really bad. She even told me once that it feels like I'm killing her son. I feel awful about this, and it makes me feel like she'll never accept this, and I can never transition because it'll hurt her too much. Both my parents have told me I'll always be their son and that they will never not use my birth name or change my pronouns. My mom has also expressed fears about my safety. Many other things have been said, and I will elaborate if asked, but I don't want this post to be terribly long, especially if you choose to read the linked posts, which are quite long too.

So here I am. Part of me, as mentioned before, doesn't know if I am truly trans. However, another part of me wants to start hormones and start physically changing; part of me considers bottom surgery and the possibility of having it one day if I so choose; part of me fantasizes about having a lesbian relationship and getting to share that happiness with my parents; part of me imagines my wedding and can't stand to think my special day will be ruined because I have to be the groom and not a bride.

So I am asking, can it get better? How can I help it get better? I really don't want to talk to them about it because it's too difficult. Did anyone else experience this, and if so, what did you do?

So not even sure where to start. My 14yr old son let me and his step mom know last week that they would want to start wearing femine makeup. He told her privately and she brought it to me per her request.

So we are a very leftist pro lgbtq+ household. I am very in the punk community and I ahev always encouraged my son to be who he wants to be no matter what. They are such an awesome kid and have always been. Me and his mom had him at 19 and 20, and she abandoned him basically at 4, and I have had sole custody since then.

Now that he is 14, he has a cell phone and stuff and tbh i do check his phone for safety reasons...and if im being honest just being nosey. I know that he has been curious about himself very much so and I am very supportive of his choices....

That being said. We went and got him.makeup.and a wig today to try it out. My wife helped him.and I had to go out for a bit. When I came back he was in the bathroom. About 10 mi later he walks out in full makeup and a wig..

At first I was so taken aback I couldn't really speak. I smiled, hugged him and fixed his wig cause it was a but crooked. I hugged him tight and told him. I love him and Im proud of him. We all talked for a bit and I asked him how he felt and he said kinda weird but comfortable.

He went back to his room to get ready for dinner and im in the garage crying now... 😢 it is so hard to see my beautiful boy as a girl outwardly. It feels.like me son has died. I kkownits selfish asf and I am supportive to him in every way...but selfishly, i am kinda tucked up right now. He was beautiful btw. Which also makes me cry. I am scared for my black LGBT son. I am so scared. The game is already on hard mode for em and that's not their fault, but it is hard. When I look at them in makeup. I dont see my kid. It's heartbreaking tbh.

I do t know what to do. I love him/them all the same and I will be supporting them in every way possible, but why does it feel like i dont have my son anymore? And why am I fucking crying lmao.

Hey everyone. I’m a parent of a 15yo mtf daughter. We’ve been using Qmed for dr access and that works ok even though our state is a real pain as far as legality of medical care and hrt. We have drive across a state line just to have a frikken appointment. It’s stupid.

What are those of you in states that restrict hormone access to adult use only (or worse) doing to work around? Mail order pharmacy? If so- who are you using? So far we haven’t been able to find one to fill this script and we’d like to get her started. I’m not against DIY if we HAVE to, but would rather not, just to be as official as we can.

I hope this isn’t breaking a rule- not trying to cause problems just HAVING some problems.