u/Pololive5

I (25m) spend the weekend with gf (23f). We spent a good amount of time planning this out so where none of this was a suppose. Story for context and asking for advice for what to do at this point.

I flew out early on Friday, about 2 hours before I landed, she text me that she was going to be 2 hours late picking me up. She told me that she agreed to drop somone else at the airport but didn’t realize that that airport was 2.5 hours in the opposite direction, so she would have to make the 2.5 hours drive east to on city and 5 hour drive west to get to the airport where I’m landing.

Ok so be it, not happy but I can recognize that she made a mistake and told me. She picks me up and we drive to her house. On the drive she asks me how upset I’m going to be if she has to work when I’m there. I say to her “not very, but what days?” She replies “tonight (Friday), and possibly Saturday and Sunday.” I give her a look and she apologies and goes off about how she was locked out of her work account and can’t trade shifts right but she’s going to see what she to do to fix it that night. We get to her house and have just enough time to show me around and for her to change to go to work. Comes back late, she brings dinner (she works at a restaurant) and that’s that.

Cool, Friday is a wash but I was jet lagged anyways so be it.

Saturday rolls around. We get up she tells me that she has to go ride for a client (also trains horses) if i want to go with her? “Is there anything for me to do there or watch?” “No sorry it’s going to be a trail ride with client so not really.” I elect to just stay home and nap for a bit. She comes back an hour and half or so later and we go to a drive through zoo place. Have a nice time there but towards the end she lets me know that she has to go to work and she’ll see what she can do about getting Sunday switched with someone else. Ok cool, is what it is. I stay home. She comes back from work a little later, we get changed and she got to country bar place that we met at. (I would’ve been gone from that place from almost year so I doubt many people there would really remember me and there was a lot of new people). On the drive there she lets me know that she gets told that she’s really bad with being people to
Places and staying them but she’ll try her best. We get there, she introduces me the one of the girls at the front and we go in. After that I get introduced to 2 other people, (1 asked to meet me before hand and she came up yo gf and asked if i was me, and the other walked up to her and asked who i was), thats it. She said hello to
Just about every other person there, and i was just there standing next to her like a bump on a log. She would run off and have little girl talks or run with all the girls to go to
The bathroom throughout the night so i was just there along for a good portion of it.

Sunday rolls around. I get up around 10, she’s already up and comes in to say good morning once she hears me moving. After that she goes off to talk to her roommate and
Her girlfriend. I hear All 3 of them talking in roommates room so I don’t pay it any mind. Start watching tv. After an hour and some change, roommates gf comes out and tells me I could come in if I’d like but I politely decline. At 2pm I text gf and a little frowny face. 30m later she texts back “sorry don’t be upset, talking to roommate and her gf l be out in a bit. 3:30 rolls around and I’m quite unhappy at this point. I’m tired of watching tv so I go and take a walk. Walk the the movie theater and pace around there for 30m or so. End up just walking in and watching half a movie, realize I’m in happy and I don’t want you ruin the movie for my self and start walking back. 5pm at this point. She calls and ask where I am, tell her I went on a walk. She tells me she fell asleep and that she has to work as bartender and asks if I would like to sit at the bar while she works. I’m very upset at this point and I decline. Meet her on way out, she gives a frustrated expression and she tells me that her room mate and her gf where having an argument, she fell Asleep, and that she got woken up by roommate after she answered gf’s phone when her managers called her about her shift. She gives me a hug and asks me again if I want to go with her and sit at the bar, I again decline.

Sit at her house and stew for a little while and roommate and her gf ask if I want to go to said restaurant to eat and see (my) gf.

We all end up going and all sit at the bar where gf is working. I’m clearly the 3rd wheel. The 3 of
Them will have conversations with people (regulars) and again, it’s like I’m a bump on a long and don’t get introduced to anyone an unless we’re leaving. I baby sit
The drunk roommate and her gf while we go the target and back to the house.

Gf comes back, and sits on the couch with me. After a bit she says “I know you’re not happy..but” then I cut her off and tell her that I’ve clearly not been a priority the entire weekend and such. As we’re talking, roommate comes by and says “uhg, I just need to be away from (her gf) right now.” Before I can say anything (like hey could you give us a minute, we’re Having a a serious conversation here), gf starts talking with roommate. I take my drink and go outside. After and hour or I come back in and we resume the conversation. I run the entire weekend itinerary by her and ask her what she would do if roles were reversed. I can see it clicks with her and she starts to sort of shut down. I tell her that I’m not breaking up with her but i think we meed a break. That’s when she completely shut down. I tell
Her I’m sleeping on the couch and that’s that.

Next morning (Monday), she get up, roommate and roommate gf get and they all see me on the couch and have a quick chat about that. I get a shower and while I’m in there she texts me that she has to Ride for a client and when she’ll be back. She comes back, asks if I wanted to anything/go anywhere and I decline. We leave for the airport at 2 and it’s was a near silent car ride. I asked her a few things and she answered but she didn’t say a work unless I asked her something. Get to airport, I thank her for driving me and leave. After an hour she asks me to let me know
When I board and land. I let her know when I land, but also send her a text apologizing for how coldly i left her at the airport, she responds “I understand where you were coming from I just wish I couldve at least given you a hug before you left”

I did try giving her a call but she’s let them all go to voicemail and hasn’t answered any other and text/messages.

More or less asking if I should just let her go, give her some time, or what would y’all do. I definitely feel like the weekend was a slap in the face and a fuck you you don’t really matter but I could tell she didn’t realize or intend for it to be that way. Idk of that makes it better or worse. I definitely won’t tolerate being ghosted (there was an issue in the past with that)

Sorry for the wall of text but I don’t think a weekend could be that bad. And idk what to do