[US] Need advice on what to do
So I just won an out of state custody battle against the grandmother of my 2 year old child. The mother of my child gave her guardianship without my knowledge and said I abandoned the child. Battle went on for over a year and a half including them blocking me from contact with my child. January of this year I was able to finally make contact with my child and start daily calls. They threw away my gifts I sent my child for Christmas and her birthday, always talk bad about me, my family, and where I’m from.
Anyway I’ve had my child officially a week and the grandmother does not stop texting my phone. I respected her privacy and texted if necessary when she had my child but this woman just won’t stop. She wants daily phone calls like she gave me (even tho I’m the father), wants visitation with my child, and many more stuff. Thing is I’m all for the mother to have daily calls and visitation if she stays sober but the grandmother I’m trying to work with her but it feels like she try’s to pressure me into giving her everything. I texted her about respecting boundaries and she just completely ignores that.
So far I’ve allowed daily calls with grandma as best as I can but I’m in the middle of trying to help my daughter with the transition with living with me and getting her moved in to my house. All they do is say “grandma loves you and give me a kiss” when we’re on the call which obviously I’m okay with but the mother of my child has only called twice. When she calls it has to be with grandmother and she will not text me. She doesn’t really say anything but repeat what the grandmother says to my child then just stares. I know it’s hard for the mom and I’m trying to be there for her but all she tells me is I’m gonna rot in hell and I’m a pos for doing this to her.
Can anyone just lmk what I should do like I want to keep her family around my child and I’m being pretty nice to them after everything they have done and said to me for years but I’m just not sure what to do at all.