u/Popular-Pickle1537

We have an 11 month old and have talked about wanting kids close together.. I just do not know how I will be pregnant and take care of my 11 month old ? Is this something that you just do and it sucks or it's not that bad?? Idk I'm so scared to ruin how good we have our routines at the moment but I love a big family and did not have a hard pregnancy at all! I just remember being so tired I would sleep 12-15 hours and won't be able to do that now obv with the first baby

About a year ago we moved to a new town and I saw an ad for a photographer and it wasn't far and only 10 min mini pictures so I figured we would try her out! We loved her and her work is beautiful!! I mean stunning photos!!!!!
Fast forward a few months and she offers a promo for mini photos for the following year and I was like heck yeah I have my new baby I want to get photos updated and it was 12 mini shoots for 300$ but in her promo she said you could ask for a special shoot etc just being a quicker shoot obv bc it's minis only. So we have 5 photoshoots and things are great she is a very nice woman and very attentive at getting the baby to smile etc.
well now she has cancelled all shoots and she will rarely post a mini available 2-5 days before the shoot which is just not easy to work out with a work schedule and baby. However I was nice about it for a while and we had some personal interaction.
Now she is stating she will no longer be offering minis next year and basically all she has posted is all that's available and it's not even a shoot every month. Mind you it was 12 mini shoots in the promo. Then she is deleting comments in the Facebook group. I saw she posted a mini for today 5 days ago and could make it work so i immediately messaged her and wanted to make sure it was okay to use my year of minis and got ghosted! She even posted more times available today and put it on discount and still didn't even reach out last minute like she usually does
I know a few other moms who have bought it are extremely frustrated and people I don't know in the group were commenting not happy
I want to send her a message but I almost feel like it's a loss and I should just move on.
Like I said in the beginning she is a stunning photographer and I'm so sad because she has photographed my baby up until now!
Also I know in the grand scheme of things this doesn't matter but it was a Christmas gift from my husband and I haven't said much to him because I don't want to make him feel bad ab it :/

I know this seems simple like just speak up but we have and this couple acts like they know everything because they have 2 kids (10 mo old + 3 year old) and we have 1 (11 mo old).
Every conversation is constantly them trying to tell us we don't know what's coming etc. when in reality we have been around tons of kids they just do not discipline and let the toddler run and destroy the house. The husband works with my husband and me and the wife are sahm so it is a nice relatable friendship but between always talking down and there badly behaved toddler im frustrated. And they know how bad the toddler is no one will barely watch her and she gets mad when grandparents discipline the toddler for valid reasons too.

How to go about this? I have asked before about her dad (child's grandpa ) watching one so we could only take out our children that our the same age and she lied and said he can't watch her other child. He watches her all the time and she tells me that... I decline to go out almost everytime because the other child is so badly behaved.

For starters I am a first time mom. My mom friend has a baby the same age as mine (10 months) and then she has a toddler (3 years old)
I really enjoy my friend but her toddler is a tornado. We have a pool and I don't mind doing play dates etc .... BUT she doesn't bring any supplies(not even towels) . She shows up with the kids and sometimes she even says do I have a swim diaper or a swimsuit for her child. I know she has these things or can get these things at a quick store stop but she doesn't and expects to use mine! I try to only do outdoor play dates at my house and then go to her house when we play indoors because her toddler is so destructive. She gets no discipline. She is spitting, snatching, hitting things and overall just picking up every single item in my house to hide it and my friend is just in lala land like whatever. I have stepped up and got onto her 1-3 times when it was a dangerous situation by the pool and my friend had no issue. Overall I enjoy my friend but I don't know what to do because I am burnt out from making sure all the kids have everything

To be clear she will get onto her toddler and then she will be like "you're so pretty" instead of following through with the discipline and it drives me nuts. The child is a terror and I have been around many 3 year olds. it is not normal behavior.