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Hi all,

I've been working from home as a tech support agent for quite some time now.

These past couple of weeks have been quite rough with the increase in call volume and strict metrics that have been implemented. I've found myself increasingly drinking more alcohol as a result of the stress and burnout from this environment. I'm at the point where I'm even smoking cigarettes often, something that I had quit over a decade ago.

Waking up in the morning is extremely difficult, just getting out of bed and thinking about work is mental torture of the highest order. I've essentially used all my PTO due to clocking in late most mornings because of how exhausting it is. There are times where I am off work and hear phantom ringing sounds out of nowhere.

Additionally, my libido is almost non existent which is probably related to the burnout. I'm in my early 30s and feel like an elderly man with little to no energy.

What are some other negative physiological effects on the body that can stem from this line of work?

I'm considering taking FMLA for a second time, however, I'm not doing well financially and taking time off work for an extended period of time would seriously take a toll on my bills. The current job market is abysmal and I've had no luck in finding something better.

I live on my own and have parents that could support me temporarily, but I do not want to be a burden to them. My health is deteriorating both mentally and physically. I remember the first time I took time off work earlier this year I felt amazing. My sleep was restorative and had no symptoms in relation to stress.

Hi all,

I am a 33 year old male that has been addicted to PMO since my early adolescent years. It was only until entering college when I started realizing the detrimental effects that it can have both mentally and physically. I've had streaks here and there throughout my journey, however, rarely have they lasted more than a couple of weeks. I remember having my first girlfriend right after high school which only lasted for about half a year, and then I remained single for the longest time until about age 30, which is when I met the love of my life, my current girlfriend. During my single years, which essentially entails all of my 20s, I would have casual encounters with multiple women and really didn't think about it too much. I knew it was just lust and all I wanted to do is have some fun and a good time. Eventually, I became tired of casual relationships and really wanted a genuine connection with someone. For some reason I assumed, that once I'd have the girl whom I deeply love, my wicked ways would dissipate on their own. However, I was wrong. I almost lost her a year ago due to my addictions and struggles with PMO. I have read a lot about this topic, and how it can severely inflict damage on ones self. It is possible that even my mild gut issues stem from this habit that I have not been able to control for more than half my existence. As for my current life situation, things haven't been going that well for me lately. I'm struggling financially due to unforeseen expenses, my girlfriend has a temporary ban on her visa status due to immigration issues and we rarely see each other now. Most importantly, I have not been able to truly do the things I've always wanted to do. Deep down inside of me I know that a lot of this stems from me still feeding the demon that has latched on to me since an early age. I must overcome this or it will be the end of me, and the time is now.

For anyone that is experienced here with overcoming such difficult feat, would it be advisable to undertake a strict 90 day period of complete abstinence to accelerate to reboot process? If so, kindly explain the reason behind it. I've read that having sexual intercourse with a woman is fine if you are in a loving relationship.

I understand this is a lifelong battle, and that a set period amount of time is only the beginning, but this is probably one of the greatest challenges I will ever undertake as someone who has been a severe addict. Any input is greatly appreciated.

Hi everyone,

I’m looking for advice regarding my girlfriend’s current situation. About three weeks ago, while entering from Ciudad Juárez to El Paso Texas port of entry, she was found with a joint of weed in her car that was purchased at a dispensary in New Mexico by someone else. She didn’t know it was there, it was left accidentally by her sister’s boyfriend in the back seat of the car. My partner does not consume marijuana, and took a drug test immediately the next day at a clinic to prove that there is no THC in her system. She was removed and given a Notice to Alien Ordered Removed (DHS Form I-296) with a five-year ban. The first part of the document reads as follows:

"You have been found to be inadmissible to the United States under the provisions of section 212(a), or are ineligible to be admitted as a stowaway under 235(a)(2), of the Immigration and Nationality Act (Act), or are deportable under the provisions of section 237 of the Act as a Visa Waiver Program violator. In accordance with the provisions of section 212(a)(9) of the Act, you are prohibited from entering, attempting to enter, or being in the United States:

[X] For a period of 5 years from the date of your departure from the United States as a consequence of your having been found inadmissible as an arriving alien in proceedings under section 235(b)(1) or 240 of the Act."

We’ve contacted two lawyers, and now we’re weighing two possible routes. One lawyer suggests reapplying for a student visa (she was a student in good standing at a University in Texas). It is like starting over again essentially, this route might take around 3-4 months but the probabilities of her getting denied are quite high. It is up to the discretion of the CBP officer that would be interviewing her, and if accepted, has the ability to override the previous officers decision to remove the individual for said period of time. This would allow her access again in to the U.S. with a new student visa, and resume her education.

The other lawyer suggests a marriage-based route with a pardon, but that could take about three years before the pardon is even granted. It was mentioned that this would have a greater success rate.

I'm hoping that the time frame can be shortened and have her back as soon as possible. Even a year would be reasonable for something that was not her fault. To make matters worse, this whole incident could have been avoided if my partners sister would have communicated and advised that there might be weed in the vehicle, being that the boyfriend did mention to her multiple times that he forgot the substance there. I live in New Mexico, about two hours away from the international bridge and it has been extremely difficult for both of us. Thankfully, I'm still able to see her since I do have a SENTRI passport, which makes travel more easy. She is an ambitious young woman that was pursuing higher education with no prior convictions of any kind.

Any recommendations as the best route to pursue in a situation like this? Would it be advisable to contact any additional lawyers? Realistically, what are the chances of shortening the 5 year ban? Any input is greatly appreciated.

Thanks in advance!