How do I find out if she genuinely likes me or just in it for the lifestyle?
Fairly successful guy with good lifestyle here. Mid thirties. Decent looking and fit but not the most traditionally attractive or “masculine” appearance
Most of my dates in my thirties have been with women who have had a wild run with hot bad boys and are trying to “settle down” with someone stable. I feel most of these women aren’t really attracted to me as a person or even physically and are just in it for my lifestyle.
Like I literally just went on a date where there was no vibe or chemistry . She was even clocking other guys at the bar while I was talking to her. And then she says after the date that she had a nice time and would like to continue seeing me.
I don’t want these women who are trying to settle with me despite no attraction. I want someone who genuinely enjoys the time together and also physically attracted to me for real.
How do I figure this out on dates? How do I get signals that she’s attracted to me and also physically rather than just saying what I want to hear so I’ll keep her?