u/PositionLogical2342

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Endless day ones, I feel weak

Thanks in advance for listening.

I’m struggling so hard to make it past 1 day. Every night I go to bed I say this is it, then in the morning I’m right back going to the dispensary. I feel stuck and weak not being able to make it through the discomfort of quitting.

I’ve been smoking daily (primarily flower but also vapes and carts here and there) for over 4 years. Started at age 15 very casually (28 now) but it took off when I moved to a legal state. 3 years ago I took 3 weeks off for a drug test but since then I haven’t been able to get more than 12 days sober. Been doing sober days randomly but it never sticks

On paper I’m a highly successful and highly functioning stoner but it’s really been impacting my mental health, career, and finances for some time now. I always thought it was helping me stay motivated but I finally have realized the shitty anxiety/depression/exhaustion cycle that it really is. I pretty much dropped out of grad school and have spent nearly all of my savings over the past 3 years. I’ve been hiding the impact on finances from my wife and the weed also keeps us from being close and spending time together. I feel like I know that this plant causes my harm and I’m tired of feeling so beholden. I also want to have a baby relatively soon and this habit has really diminished my ability to do that financially.

Every day though those thoughts creep back in that maybe this is all too dramatic and that everything is okay if I keep using. It’s everywhere I turn and so normalized. I feel like I’m not strong enough to actually make it through and quit. I feel lost.

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u/PositionLogical2342 — 13 days ago

TIA for reading

Like the title says. I’ve been smoking daily (primarily flower but also vapes and carts here and there) for over 4 years. Started at age 15 very casually (28 now) but it took off when I moved to a legal state. 3 years ago I took 3 weeks off for a drug test but since then I haven’t been able to get more than 12 days sober. Been doing sober days randomly but it never sticks.

I’ve been on mental health meds off and on for years for some childhood PTSD and am currently stable on two meds for the most part. However, with the circumstances of the world, it’s been hard to “relax” and the amount of stressors is endless. While I have a roof over my head and am doing okay, it’s still scary times. On paper I’m a highly successful and highly functioning stoner but it’s really been impacting my mental health, career, and finances for some time now. I always thought it was helping me stay motivated but I finally have realized the shitty anxiety/depression/exhaustion cycle that it really is. I pretty much dropped out of grad school and have spent nearly all of my savings over the past 3 years. I’ve been hiding the impact on finances from my wife and the weed also keeps us from being close and spending time together. I feel like I know that this plant causes my harm and I’m tired of feeling so beholden. I also want to have a baby relatively soon and this habit has really diminished my ability to do that financially.

With everything going on, (being a black queer woman in America) my therapists keep pushing for harm reduction and think cold turkey is bad. I know that I can’t moderate, at least I feel like I’ve tried. Dozens of “day ones” and thoughts of “im not going to smoke tomorrow”, or “just the weekend” and none of it ever sticks. Every time I get to that uncomfortable feeling that is days 2-5 I just give up.

I don’t feel strong enough and everyone else voicing to me that I don’t need to stop makes it harder. I’m just confused, tired, and lost.

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u/PositionLogical2342 — 19 days ago