u/Potential-Damage3145

I’m getting to know someone who is SDA, and I recently learned that he considers decorative jewelry inconsistent with his values. Jewelry—especially earrings—is personally meaningful to me, and I’m trying to understand how much beliefs and practices around this vary among Adventists. Is this generally considered a personal conviction, a cultural preference, or something commonly expected of a spouse? I’d appreciate perspectives from people within the faith.

Hey guys, so I recently started talking to some guy I met on a dating ap. For reference, we had matched about a year ago and exchanged numbers/talked briefly but it kinda fizzled out naturally. Also, we’re both students so I never thought too much of it since I know time is hard to come by.

Anyways, since we recently re-matched we started talking again and we were both straightforward about wanting something serious/long term. We’ve been talking for about 2 weeks (texting, phone calls, etc.) but haven’t officially met in person yet. We’re supposed to meet up for coffee this Sunday and then he invited me over to his place afterwards so we could “watch a movie and cuddle”. I kinda really want to because I feel the chemistry is for sure there and I can see this going long term, but I’m worried it might be too soon???? I don’t even kiss on a first date (but also that’s much more intimate imo). He hasn’t been overly sexual (which is usually a red flag for me) and the times that he has been flirty he has checked in with me to see if I’m comfortable with it. Overall he seems very respectful and genuine…..but IDK.

Don’t know if this has any relevance, but also I’ve never been in a relationship. Any advice is appreciated tysm

Someone in a position of power has been very unfair towards students and I can’t keep biting my tongue about it. For example, said person will authorize time-off for SOME students to attend weddings, birthdays, and other family events etc but will penalize others for having a family emergency to tend to telling them to “plan accordingly next time” and taking professionalism points away.

Additionally, they will accommodate certain students for exam retakes for a later date (will move around entire schedules for them) —mind you: not because of an emergency but because they already had a fun trip planned and booked—but when asked for the same leeway from another classmate (for other scheduling conflicts on wedding planning), he was told “it would be unfair to the rest of your classmates. I cannot accommodate you rescheduling the testing date” these are just two of manyyyyyy examples, but I wanted to get input from the community. I don’t wanna say it’s racism because that’s a big accusation, but there’s a trend that is hard to ignore. Regardless, this treatment is extremely unfair and unjustified. Very unprofessional behavior if you ask me. I don’t feel safe enough to bring this up to someone in fear of retaliation, but it’s hard to stand by and say nothing or do nothing about this sort of treatment. We pay way too much money for someone of such power to only apply the rules where it seems convenient.