Bride wants people to travel and cook for her wedding in 3 months bc they "can't afford it"
This post really frustrated me. OP wanted a potluck wedding that they seemingly did not discuss with anyone prior to planning & sending out invites. It's only 3 months away too. OP also mentions multiple people in her immediate family are 3 states away. What are they going to do, cook in a hotel? Bring a crockpot in their carry-on?
The "we don't need anything but the joy of people coming." bothered me so much. Are you kidding me? I'm so glad that's all you need, but I need food. You're inviting people to an event that you planned, for you and your fiance, that often lasts for HOURS. Your guests need to be fed in some way. It's not their event!
OP responded to me with a snarky "I was always taught to feed people, so that's a no Brainer" ... Ma'am your ENTIRE post is you trying to get out of feeding people and making them feed themselves AND everyone else you invited!
I saw a comment that summed it up well - "A pot luck wedding isn’t you throwing a wedding, it’s shifting the cost and burden on to your guests." Exactly. OP also said they wanted it to feel like a "family reunion"... Well plan and coordinate a family reunion with everyone then, instead of sending out wedding invitations with little to no discussion, and just elope/have a ceremony at the reunion.
The comments were helpful and suggested affordable drop in catering like Chipotle, Costco, pizza, etc. Other comments suggested doing a punch & cake reception. Instead of taking any of the wonderful advice, OP just reposted it on a different sub a few hours later...
Edit: OP left a new comment on their post that says "That's me. My best friend is flying in, she wants me to be able to get hair and nails done ...If I wasn't the 1 getting married I could cook no problem! Lol" ... Not her going for a literal spa day while everyone else cooks!!
Edit: everyone in the comments saying they are owed this and etc are incredibly selfish. She is not a queen and her guests are not her servants. She cannot force the groom's family to participate in a potluck they do not want, especially with food safety concerns. She cannot force her side of the family who has to travel from 3 states away to cook in a hotel room. As mentioned, she could just do ceremony only, do a cake & punch reception, order pizza, etc. That is why the wedding shaming sub exists, a wedding is not an excuse to make other people do labor for you, and you are not "owed" anything. They are GUESTS.