u/PrairieBunny91

Hey everyone. I am genuinely curious about other people's opinions and would love some information.

I have a six year old collie. He alerts me for ocular migraines, and wakes me up when I have night terrors. Both of these are behaviors he learned entirely on his own and has been doing for quite a few years. And I feel really lucky that we have that sort of bound. Knowing that I'm about to have a migraine hours in advance has been so amazing, because I typically lose most of my vision during my attacks and that can be dangerous if I am out away from the house. I also have a lot of chronic pain issues, and he does some deep pressure tasks that were mostly trained, but also something he started doing on his own.

While he is very well behaved (AKC CGC and CGCA, plus a Trick Title), he is not perfect out in the world. He is very friendly and likes to greet some people and dogs. And I don't really care. We don't go places together where dogs aren't allowed. I don't need or want him to be a public access dog because he does amazing work for me at home and that's all I need.

However, even though he does medical tasks for me, I don't know if I am allowed to call him a service dog, even though I have seen people talk about at-home service dogs. But he definitely feels like more than a pet.

What do other people think?

Hey Albany!

We breed super worms for our critters but lately they've been very busy and we definitely have some to spare.

If anyone would like some super worms, please let me know! We need to thin things out a bit.

Hey everyone. I hope you are enjoying your Friday night. I am asking for some help and talking points talking to a friend who is so obsessed with trying to "find a man" that it's making her really unhappy. And truthfully, it's gotten a smidge annoying, although that isn't my main motivator in wanting to talk to her.

Some background - We have been friends for over a decade and are both in our early 30's. My friend, let's call her Tracy, has never really had a lot of luck in the dating department. She is very sweet, has a great sense of humor, is family oriented, and just the loveliest person, but she just hasn't dated a lot. She does deal with some mental health struggles, and it impacts her self esteem quite a bit. Modern dating being what it is, because she mostly dates on apps, and gets constantly ghosted, stood up, or a combination. I'm not going to say she is perfect and it's everyone else's fault, but I hear this a lot from people in the dating world right now.

Currently - The last several months Tracy has been obsessing over a couple men she is talking to, and just the idea of being partnered in general. It's all she talks about and she's gone into a bit of an obsessive spiral over it and I think it's making her mental health worse. I don't think it's healthy of her to center her life around dating men, and she does seem to very much be seeking men out for validation, attention, and making her seem "worthwhile". I think her life would be a lot better if she decentered men as a focus in her life.

I'm struggle with talking points though without sounding like a hypocrite. I am a queer woman and I'm married. I've been with my husband for well over a decade, and our relationship is incredibly healthy, balanced, and is a true partnership. I also truthfully don't really prefer men in general, with the exception of my husband, so I am having a hard time seeing why Tracy is getting worked up over these mid-ass men she keeps finding, so I struggle to relate, and I also struggle to really be able to talk about this in a way that seems like I'm not the married friend giving stupid advice to their single friend.

Does anyone have any words of wisdom on how I can lovingly approach this subject in an impactful way? I'd really appreciate the advice, because I hate seeing my friend struggle.