u/PreparationSoft3566

Anyone here living in Hargeisa? Especially girls let’s link up and make some friends. Drop a comment or DM

I’ve had lupus since I was 6 and was diagnosed when I was 14. I had some really rough days growing up, especially at school, but I always tried to keep a positive mindset and push myself to do better.

I went to university, studied Accounting and Finance, and eventually graduated. My parents supported me throughout everything, and I was really looking forward to the day I could finally become fully independent, take care of myself, and be able to support my family too.

Long story short, I found a corporate job as an accountant, and I quickly realized that physically, I just couldn’t do it.

I would come home crying, completely swollen and exhausted. There were days when I could barely type on a keyboard because of the swelling, and when I stood up, I could barely walk. It felt like my own body had betrayed me.

And honestly, I’m devastated.

Lupus has already taken so much from me my childhood, opportunities, and some of the dreams I had for myself. Now I feel like it’s affecting my mental health too.

Where I live, remote jobs aren’t really an option, which makes everything even harder. I worked so hard to get my degree because I thought it would give me independence, and now I’m struggling to figure out how I’m supposed to build a career when my body won’t cooperate.

I don’t really know what to do from here.
For those of you who have lupus and had to change your career or give up a job because of your health, how did you figure things out? How did you deal with the feeling of losing the future you had planned for yourself?

I’d really appreciate any advice or even just hearing from people who have been through something similar

I was born in Europe but raised in Somaliland, and honestly sometimes I feel like I don’t really belong anywhere.
Here, people see me as diaspora because I was born abroad, but when I talk to diaspora people, they see me as someone who’s basically local.
It feels like I’m always caught in the middle. I relate to both sides, but at the same time I feel like I’m not fully part of either one. Can’t really win 😂

Anyone else have a similar experience? Let’s connect

Genuine question... where are people finding decent people these days? It feels like everyone says they're looking for something serious, but it's so hard to find someone with good character and honest intentions,help a girl out 😭