I did a quick search in this sub & didn't see any posts about threesomes!?! Curious what you all's XP has been in them -- how were you propositioned? Were you attracted to both or only one other party? Would you do it again? Tips?
In your experience, how common is it for you to be out on a date with a woman & another [lesbian or queer] woman approaches to hit on you?
Trying to gauge whether this is actually common or I’m putting off some sort of energy.
I had a strange second date this past weekend. We had previously agreed on the importance of gauging sexual compatibility early on, and I had been clear that I was looking for casual connections, while she mentioned being ready for a long-term relationship.
Between the first and second dates, we barely communicated for two weeks. When we finally met for a movie (her idea), the energy was kinda cold. I actually tried to leave at intermission but she seemed genuinely confused and claimed she’d just been busy with work and celebrating her birthday. I stayed to be a “good” date (making her laugh, asking her questions) but the rest of the night was a series of 'riddles.'
On the train, she kept dropping hints for me to leave, then saying 'no' when I’d ask if she wanted to go home alone, eventually telling me to 'do with that information what you will' regarding her lack of energy. I ended up just getting off the train at a random stop and Ubering home.
Later that night she texted apologizing, admitting she was “confusing and rude” because she felt defensive. She’s French, if that makes any difference in how we communicate interest but as someone who is highly intuitive yet struggles with social signals due to being on the autism spectrum, it felt like she was toying with me.
My question is: Given that we’ve already discussed sexual compatibility and I find her physically attractive, should I still pursue the casual side of this and sleep with her, or is the communication gap she showed on the train too big of a red flag to even go there?