u/Pretend_Bunny

I have interviews coming up for midlevel java backend software engineer roles. Any tips for me on how to prepare? was told to also brush up on claude concepts so need advice!

My husband told me that he has been watching NSFW videos of other women on reddit and fantasize of women and their relationships with their husbands when he makes 'love' with me. When we make 'love', he focuses on other women and their bodies.

He told me he still loves me but now I feel so inadequate and unloved. He also said that he doesn't find me beautiful inside and outside but he says that there is 'something' still there. I haven't talked to him for a day now because I spent yesterday crying the whole day. I thought we were doing okay till he decides to tell me. I had a suspicion that he was watching porn for sometime and that conversation confirmed it. I feel degraded/defiled and I don't know if I want to stay in a marriage that is like this. For context, he has been spiritually free falling for sometime now so he is not being a Christian or within faith.

I need advice because all I could think of is trying to get out of this situation and find a job and leave. We are also in a different state so no support network or good church here. I have been attending church online from an old church of ours. Last time I went to an actual church, they asked me where my husband was and I haven't been back because it's hard to explain when your spouse does not believe right now. I need advice on how to move forward :(

My husband told me that he has been watching NSFW videos of other women on reddit and fantasize of women and their relationships with their husbands when he makes 'love' with me. When we make 'love', he focuses on other women and their bodies.

He told me he still loves me but now I feel so inadequate and unloved. He also said that he doesn't find me beautiful inside and outside but he says that there is 'something' still there. I haven't talked to him for a day now because I spent yesterday crying the whole day. I thought we were doing okay till he decides to tell me. I had a suspicion that he was watching porn for sometime and that conversation confirmed it. I feel degraded/defiled and I don't know if I want to stay in a marriage that is like this. For context, he has been spiritually free falling for sometime now so he is not being a Christian or within faith.

I need advice because all I could think of is trying to get out of this situation and find a job and leave. We are also in a different state so no support network or good church here. I have been attending church online from an old church of ours. Last time I went to an actual church, they asked me where my husband was and I haven't been back because it's hard to explain when your spouse does not believe right now. I need advice.