u/Pretty_Philosophy_59

As women who don’t want children, I feel like we often have less pressure to settle down by a certain age. We have the freedom to take our time and be intentional about who we choose to spend our lives with.
So I’m curious: Did you keep dating until you found someone who genuinely checked all your boxes, or did you eventually decide that the qualities your partner did have outweighed the ones they lacked?
For those who compromised, what did you compromise on, and how did you decide it was worth it? Were these things you could live without, or did you learn that some of your original requirements weren’t as important as you thought?
And for those who didn’t compromise on their core requirements, how long did it take you to find your person?
I’d love to hear honest answers, especially from women who are happy in their relationships. I’m trying to understand the difference between healthy compromise and settling when you have the luxury of not feeling pressured to partner up on a timeline. ❤️

As women who don’t want children, I feel like we often have less societal pressure to settle down by a certain age. We have the freedom to take our time and be intentional about who we choose to spend our lives with.
So I’m curious: Did you keep dating until you found someone who genuinely checked all your boxes, or did you eventually decide that the qualities your partner did have outweighed the ones they lacked?
For those who compromised, what did you compromise on, and how did you decide it was worth it? Were these things you could live without, or did you learn that some of your original requirements weren’t as important as you thought?
And for those who didn’t compromise on their core requirements, how long did it take you to find your person?
I’d love to hear honest answers, especially from women who are happy in their relationships. I’m trying to understand the difference between healthy compromise and settling when you have the luxury of not feeling pressured to partner up on a timeline. ❤️

I’m 35F, looking to connect with women in Toronto who are intentionally building a different kind of life.
Childfree by choice
Working toward financial independence with an early retirement goal (around 40)
Prioritizing health, strength, and longevity as a long-term investment in quality of life
Are happy, positive people who like their lives, the people in it and don’t need gossip as a means to connect with others
Single or if in a relationship have high standards and only engage with high quality partners that add significant tangible value to your life
It can feel rare to find people who are intentionally designing life this way, so I’d love to connect with others on a similar path.

Edit: Thank you all for the responses. Love seeing so many of us on the same path. I’ll be reaching out to people over the upcoming days.

Those aged 35-39, what net worth do you have to be in the top 0.5% or 0.1% on the WealthSimple wealth rank? Do they have any classifications nicher than top 0.1%?

Has anyone tried whitening strips or other tools to whiten their teeth without damage or sensitivity? If you have any tried and tested doctors office recommendations for Toronto, that would help as well.

I’m childfree and have been thinking about what I’m looking for in a partner when it comes to financial expectations. I’m not ok with a 50/50 dynamic, the feeling it leaves me with would just kill any romantic attraction towards a partner. Also I don’t believe it’s fair towards women while we live in a patriarchal society. It doesn’t have to be a 100-0 split if he can’t afford it, but the most I can see myself agreeing to is a 70/30 split. I would be onboard with 50/50 when we live in a TRULY equal society, where women and men are held to the same beauty standards or both can age in peace, when we get paid menstrual leave and menstruation products are free, when we don’t have to pay more for our safety, when pink taxes don’t exist, when workplaces are equally designed for women’s hormone cycles not 9-5 that works on testosterone cycles, when the burden of birth control and childbirth doesn’t fall on women etc etc. But while that reality is far away, I’m curious how the rest of you handle your finances.