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Trust me this is relevant. She is also engaged to Chris (34 male) who has a disabled mother. I am now 8 months postpartum and 28 female. My husband is Josh 30 male, we have two boys. One is 7 and we'll call bubba, the second is 8 months old and we'll call bubs. I'm also chronically ill.

Now that that is set, onto the story. Angie had her tubes tied, because she didn't want to get pregnant again after her fourth kid. She says our mother made her, yet in the same breath admits she never wanted to be a mother in the first place. I cut our mother off after my first was born. Angie knows I don't want her around my boys, but she continued to bring her up. Saying things like "Josh made you cut her off." When it's was me who blocked her and I didn't even tell him till after it was done. We'll when I found out I was pregnant I was shocked I could barely believe it when I was looking at both positive pregnancy tests. Josh and I had thought I had become completely infertile. So we were happy and excited. We tried to keep it a secret. But due to bubba being excited and telling my husband family, and Angie running to tell my grandparents. By the time we were ready to tell everyone already knew.

During my pregnancy Angie talked about how Chris was making her want to have another kid. And this is when she started to say our mother made the doctor tie her tubes against her wishes. She also would go on to say she thinks she's pregnant multiple times, even though she never was. She really started trying to get our mother involved in my life at this time as well. Telling me the lies she told her, and saying that it was Josh keeping her away. No matter how many times I said otherwise. She also started calling Josh a narcissist and saying that he was even letting his family mistreat me. None of this was true. She was doing everything in her power to paint Josh in a bad light. And for those who understand what it's like to be pregnant and hormonal can understand it can make you easier to be manipulated.

I tried my best to not let Angie get too me my whole pregnancy, however I'm not perfect. I have since sat and admitted and apologized for even allowing her to manipulate me the little bit she had. When I was in labor, bubs and I nearly unalived. I made a whole post about that. And the only person whoever mistreated me in my husband's family was his memaw, and she was cut off as well. Angie and Josh's memaw tried to make my birth about them and their emotions. When I refused to give Angie the attention she wanted, she really started in. My entire postpartum she tried to manipulate me and make me think Josh and his family were horrible. She was also aware I was on antidepressants at the time.

It didn't really click with me what she was doing till (sadly) I was six months postpartum. Angie and Chris decided to get me alone with bubs and take us shopping. Even bought me a new purse. However, when we got back to my house they both started in on me about how easy it would be to leave Josh. That I would get the kids and the house, and that Angie and Chris could even buy some land to move my house onto. Even tried to say that Josh was cheating on me. Realized then that her goal was to get me to leave my husband so that she could move herself and her four children into my home and continue to manipulate and use me. I refuse to go back out with her. I had even had a flare attack in front of her before so she is well aware of my chronic illness.

When bubba was graduating from kindergarten she tried to say our mother was coming. Even though she knows I don't want her near us. Saying our mother had a gift to give him. Well Josh and I cut his memaw and Angie off at the same time. We are done with their toxicity and manipulation. However, when we went on a weekend trip during father's day weekend we stopped to see my grandparents. I wanted them too see my husband for themselves so they could see what an amazing husband he is. When Angie found out I was cutting her off she exploded on me. Saying that Josh was keeping me prisoner and (to no surprise) he was a narcissist and abusive. I hung up on her because I wasn't going to listen to it anymore. My grandparents had also given bubba not only their gift, but also my mother's gift. I grew very upset, especially when I saw what the gift was. I didn't blame my grandparents as I knew Angie was running her mouth too them behind my back for years.

When we got back from our trip I ended up in a really bad flare. I had horrible fatigue and a migraine that lasted a whole week. I had to take anti nausea medication so I would become sick to my stomach from the pain. When the migraine became bearable I made a post to Facebook. Facebook is the best was my family and I have have stayed up to date on each other. I hadn't yet blocked Angie on there either. The post said what no contact meant and how that included gifts too. And had a list of my no contact and some reasons why they are no contact without going into detail of why they are no contact. Angie didn't like this. Told me she was blocking me because she was going to sit there and watch me sh** talk her on social media. I simply told her I will always love her and her kids and will miss them. Understand she was to block me, that's I wasn't crap talking her simply stating facts and boundaries, and ended with saying goodbye.

She of course sent back "so when I spit facts about Josh and yalls marriage it's disrespectful and cause for me to be cut off". I haven't replied but I did talk to Josh about it. Told him all I want to do now is yell at her that she's only mad because she wasn't able to get my home and ruin my marriage. Josh works for the city and told me the next day that he saw my aunt and Angie in a beat up car, just sitting there staring at him. I told him Angie was probably talking shit about him too her. I'm doing everything to keep my hormones in check and not reply to my sister. I haven't deleted the message because I know if I click on it I will just reply. So for now her message is just being ignored. I am however, worried that my aunt and Angie may start stalking my husband Josh. My aunt for good reason is also no contact along with her husband. Josh is fully aware of how horrible and toxic my whole family is. He holds grudges against them for things they did that I no longer hold a grudge for. Thank you reddit for letting me vent. I'm still getting over my flare and plan to have some hot tea here in a minute to sooth my throat.

I'm using fake names and ages. My older sister (30 female) Angie has four children, and none of them have the same father. Trust me this is relevant. She is also engaged to Chris (34 male) who has a disabled mother. I am now 8 months postpartum and 28 female. My husband is Josh 30 male, we have two boys. One is 7 and we'll call bubba, the second is 8 months old and we'll call bubs. I'm also chronically ill.

Now that that is set, onto the story. Angie had her tubes tied, because she didn't want to get pregnant again after her fourth kid. She says our mother made her, yet in the same breath admits she never wanted to be a mother in the first place. I cut our mother off after my first was born. Angie knows I don't want her around my boys, but she continued to bring her up. Saying things like "Josh made you cut her off." When it's was me who blocked her and I didn't even tell him till after it was done. We'll when I found out I was pregnant I was shocked I could barely believe it when I was looking at both positive pregnancy tests. Josh and I had thought I had become completely infertile. So we were happy and excited. We tried to keep it a secret. But due to bubba being excited and telling my husband family, and Angie running to tell my grandparents. By the time we were ready to tell everyone already knew.

During my pregnancy Angie talked about how Chris was making her want to have another kid. And this is when she started to say our mother made the doctor tie her tubes against her wishes. She also would go on to say she thinks she's pregnant multiple times, even though she never was. She really started trying to get our mother involved in my life at this time as well. Telling me the lies she told her, and saying that it was Josh keeping her away. No matter how many times I said otherwise. She also started calling Josh a narcissist and saying that he was even letting his family mistreat me. None of this was true. She was doing everything in her power to paint Josh in a bad light. And for those who understand what it's like to be pregnant and hormonal can understand it can make you easier to be manipulated.

I tried my best to not let Angie get too me my whole pregnancy, however I'm not perfect. I have since sat and admitted and apologized for even allowing her to manipulate me the little bit she had. When I was in labor, bubs and I nearly unalived. I made a whole post about that. And the only person whoever mistreated me in my husband's family was his memaw, and she was cut off as well. Angie and Josh's memaw tried to make my birth about them and their emotions. When I refused to give Angie the attention she wanted, she really started in. My entire postpartum she tried to manipulate me and make me think Josh and his family were horrible. She was also aware I was on antidepressants at the time.

It didn't really click with me what she was doing till (sadly) I was six months postpartum. Angie and Chris decided to get me alone with bubs and take us shopping. Even bought me a new purse. However, when we got back to my house they both started in on me about how easy it would be to leave Josh. That I would get the kids and the house, and that Angie and Chris could even buy some land to move my house onto. Even tried to say that Josh was cheating on me. Realized then that her goal was to get me to leave my husband so that she could move herself and her four children into my home and continue to manipulate and use me. I refuse to go back out with her. I had even had a flare attack in front of her before so she is well aware of my chronic illness.

When bubba was graduating from kindergarten she tried to say our mother was coming. Even though she knows I don't want her near us. Saying our mother had a gift to give him. Well Josh and I cut his memaw and Angie off at the same time. We are done with their toxicity and manipulation. However, when we went on a weekend trip during father's day weekend we stopped to see my grandparents. I wanted them too see my husband for themselves so they could see what an amazing husband he is. When Angie found out I was cutting her off she exploded on me. Saying that Josh was keeping me prisoner and (to no surprise) he was a narcissist and abusive. I hung up on her because I wasn't going to listen to it anymore. My grandparents had also given bubba not only their gift, but also my mother's gift. I grew very upset, especially when I saw what the gift was. I didn't blame my grandparents as I knew Angie was running her mouth too them behind my back for years.

When we got back from our trip I ended up in a really bad flare. I had horrible fatigue and a migraine that lasted a whole week. I had to take anti nausea medication so I would become sick to my stomach from the pain. When the migraine became bearable I made a post to Facebook. Facebook is the best was my family and I have have stayed up to date on each other. I hadn't yet blocked Angie on there either. The post said what no contact meant and how that included gifts too. And had a list of my no contact and some reasons why they are no contact without going into detail of why they are no contact. Angie didn't like this. Told me she was blocking me because she was going to sit there and watch me sh** talk her on social media. I simply told her I will always love her and her kids and will miss them. Understand she was to block me, that's I wasn't crap talking her simply stating facts and boundaries, and ended with saying goodbye.

She of course sent back "so when I spit facts about Josh and yalls marriage it's disrespectful and cause for me to be cut off". I haven't replied but I did talk to Josh about it. Told him all I want to do now is yell at her that she's only mad because she wasn't able to get my home and ruin my marriage. Josh works for the city and told me the next day that he saw my aunt and Angie in a beat up car, just sitting there staring at him. I told him Angie was probably talking shit about him too her. I'm doing everything to keep my hormones in check and not reply to my sister. I haven't deleted the message because I know if I click on it I will just reply. So for now her message is just being ignored. I am however, worried that my aunt and Angie may start stalking my husband Josh. My aunt for good reason is also no contact along with her husband. Josh is fully aware of how horrible and toxic my whole family is. He holds grudges against them for things they did that I no longer hold a grudge for. Thank you reddit for letting me vent. I'm still getting over my flare and plan to have some hot tea here in a minute to sooth my throat.