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On the coparenting sub I have a sense of what 50/50 custody seems to be preferred but I would like to get the perspective of children of divorce. For context, we have a 2-2-3 schedule currently with a 4 year old boy. When he turns 5 and starts kindergarten we are considering a 2-2-5-5. The advantage of this is that your days are fixed and what rotates is Friday to Sunday with the other parent. It also feels like less movement compared to the 2-2-3.
Can anyone share which schedule they did, how old they were, if they were an only child or not, and how whatever schedule you ended up with affected you. Did you resent it. Did anyone actually prefer the 2-2-5-5?

Has anyone gone this route? I’m considering it only because we currently coparent a 4 year old and even though romantically we did not work out, as co-parents I think we do really well. We do not talk unless it is about our child. We both show up to his activities. I would like for my child not go through life alone and so I am considering a second child.
Sperm donor route was initially attractive to me until someone suggested asking my ex. Before we split up, he had mentioned trying for a second. I was already mentally checked out of the relationship, so I did not encourage the conversation or pursue it further.
Has this arrangement worked out for anyone without further complicating things? I plan to do surrogacy as I had a traumatic pregnancy and birth, and have since discovered a spine condition which probably made my pregnancy more difficult than it needed to be, along with red degeneration from fibroids. I’m curious if this has been done before and what the legal requirements or mutual understanding consisted of. I do not want to blur the lines of a marriage that has ended. But I’ve thought about what a donor sperm child may think if he/she sees the older sibling with an active involved father, and they don’t have one.