What normal sex things do you never see in books? We all know that the ‘thigh-squeezing quick-walk to the bathroom to try to keep stuff from making a mess’ is never portrayed, but what else? I’ll go first: farting after anal. It happens. Sometimes it’s just a little, sometimes it’s enough to power a small house on wind energy. I’ve never seen even the smallest mention of it
I am a FTM with a 2 month old that is EBF. I had just gotten home from visiting family and REALLY needed to poo, but she was crying to eat. I didn’t have a bottle pumped to have my husband feed her, could feel it was going to be a longer bathroom trip, and didn’t want her to cry the whole time. Cut to me breastfeeding her on the toilet. 😅 Not my proudest moment but you gotta do what you gotta do. (I had her lounger on the bathroom floor to put her in so I could wipe and wash my hands lol)
Does anyone else intentionally not share the night shift with their partner? I’m a FTM and my LO is 2 months today. She is EBF. Babies who are formula or combo fed, I can see how the partner can help with nights, but I don’t see how it would be practical for breastfeeding. Even if I pumped a bottle and my husband woke up to feed her, I’d still have to wake up to pump. It’s not really feasible for my husband to do the nighttime diaper changes either. She sleeps until she is very hungry so we can’t wait to feed her until after a diaper change. She usually falls asleep halfway through, so I do a diaper change to wake her up a bit so she can finish, so I can’t do the diaper change last. I’d have to start feeding her, hand her to my husband to change her while I sit and wait and try not to fall asleep, then finish feeding her.
Plus, night time wake ups go to the nursery so I’d be walking back and forth. She sleeps in a bassinet in our room, but I take her to the nursery to feed and change her at night. This way the dogs don’t wake up, it wakes me up a bit more so I don’t fall asleep feeding her, and I can use the changing table. During the day, the dogs are banished from the bedroom and I lay in best most of the day with my LO on my chest. I use a changing pad on the bed to change her, but I can’t do that at night in the dark.
My husband tells me all the time that if I need anything, even if I just want him to be up with me, to wake him up (he’s a heavy sleeper and won’t wake unless the baby starts fully crying, but I always wake up when she’s still just fussing). I just feel like there’s no point in waking him up. I’d have to be up regardless and why should we both be horribly sleep deprived? If one of us can get good sleep, why shouldn’t they? I can nap off and on throughout the day, but he can’t. He also works a physically demanding job outside in the Mississippi heat, operating heavy machinery so it’s not safe for him to be sleep deprived. I’m a teacher and won’t go back to work for more than a month still, and (hopefully) LO will be sleeping longer stretches at night by then.
We both hear things all the time from friends, family, and social media about how if the husband doesn’t get up at night, he’s not being a good father or partner. It makes him feel bad sometimes, even though I am always reminding him that *I* am the one telling him to sleep. Am I the only mom that does this? I know there are some “men” who refuse to get up and help at night, but do any of you tell your wonderful, helpful husbands not to? I just don’t see the point in it
My parents are nerds. They are constantly quoting Harry Potter, Tolkien, Jane Austen, 80s/90s songs, classic musicals, Bugs Bunny, etc. I grew up with the Harry Potter, LOTR, Hobbit, Narnia, etc movies playing all the time. My dad called the reddish lights on the horizon in the evening from the recycling plant a few miles away, Mordor. We didn’t have a “junk drawer”. We had a Drawer of Requirement. (It took me an embarrassingly long time to make the connection…)
I now have a husband and a house of my own, and we don’t have a junk drawer. We have a Drawer of Requirement. Does anyone else have common household things that they have renamed after things from Harry Potter?