u/Pristine_Gap7141

Hello guys, need advice. I'm the aunt and the child's dad, who is my sibling, has passed away. They weren't married and right after they separated, this girl quickly started another family. So now it's my nephew's 7th birthday, and suddenly the girl messaged me saying she wants to provide food for the school for my nephew's 7th birthday. But she said she doesn't have enough money since all she can afford is to go to the mall and eat out. She claims that's what my nephew requested, as if they've brainwashed him. They keep calling my mother, who is the kids' grandma. Since my mother can't say no, she's asking me. And when it's my mom making the request, I can't refuse either. (My mother is spoiled with me).

I just want to vent my frustration. The girl has such nerve. She's depending on us for everything. She knows it's her child's 7th birthday and hasn't even saved up. To think my sibling's pension is with her. She receives about 8k in pension monthly. Shouldn’t a mother provide for her child using that monthly pension for the child's expenses? Why does it seem like she isn't contributing? She keeps having more kids and then reduces the budget for my nephew.

P.s

They are a 4ps member family. There are seven siblings. The eldest is abroad. Meanwhile, two of her siblings are teachers in public schools, and the others work in private sectors. And she still gets a pension from my sibling while claiming to be a single parent, but she’s currently living with someone else (this is the other family I'm talking about). Though they're not married. But it’s outrageous that their family is on that poverty card.

I'm upset because of the 20k tax that's deducted from me, and her family is benefiting from it. It's such an unusual life. Why does this type of family get included in 4ps? They seem to be doing better than me, to be honest. And if we borrow my nephew, there are so many conditions. It's not enough that they are being opportunistic.

Hello guys, need advice. I'm the aunt and the child's dad, who is my sibling, has passed away. They weren't married and right after they separated, this girl quickly started another family. So now it's my nephew's 7th birthday, and suddenly the girl messaged me saying she wants to provide food for the school for my nephew's 7th birthday. But she said she doesn't have enough money since all she can afford is to go to the mall and eat out. She claims that's what my nephew requested, as if they've brainwashed him. They keep calling my mother, who is the kids' grandma. Since my mother can't say no, she's asking me. And when it's my mom making the request, I can't refuse either. (My mother is spoiled with me).

I just want to vent my frustration. The girl has such nerve. She's depending on us for everything. She knows it's her child's 7th birthday and hasn't even saved up. To think my sibling's pension is with her. She receives about 8k in pension monthly. Shouldn’t a mother provide for her child using that monthly pension for the child's expenses? Why does it seem like she isn't contributing? She keeps having more kids and then reduces the budget for my nephew.

P.s

They are a 4ps member family. There are seven siblings. The eldest is abroad. Meanwhile, two of her siblings are teachers in public schools, and the others work in private sectors. And she still gets a pension from my sibling while claiming to be a single parent, but she’s currently living with someone else (this is the other family I'm talking about). Though they're not married. But it’s outrageous that their family is on that poverty card.

I'm upset because of the 20k tax that's deducted from me, and her family is benefiting from it. It's such an unusual life. Why does this type of family get included in 4ps? They seem to be doing better than me, to be honest. And if we borrow my nephew, there are so many conditions. It's not enough that they are being opportunistic.